getbiii Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 so this is my story, i am now more confused than ever and dont know what to do! please help me, tell me what you think! do i still have the chance of getting her back? what does all this mean?? exactly one month ago, my ex dumped me. she is on the rebound! we broke up because i was acting like a jerk the last two weeks (not because i wanted too of course) she met this guy probably when things started to go sour with us, like one week at most before our break up. as soon as we broke up she started going out with him as friends, now they are oficially boy friend and girlfriend. at first i begged her to come back, this lasted about 2 weeks (on and off) i begged for days then she said i wasn't giving her space. then i would stop and she would call me and say she misses me. i wold go back to calling her again then she would say i wasn't giving her her space. so i went back to giving her her space, days later i was going to her house because i knew she wouldnt be there and i had her backpack with her things for school and i knew she needs it, on my way there we bumped into each other and she invited me to have breakfast i accepted. we went and talked very friendly. time went by then she had to leave, as we were saying by to each other in the parking lot, she tried to kiss me but stopped then said she loves me and left. later on that day she went online and said she misses me a lot and loves me and wants to be with me.... i went to very low contact because i found out they were now going out. a week went by and she started to contact me, saying that she is not okay that she loves me and all this hurts her so much. every day she would say more and more things until one day she even called me crying saying she just wanted to hear my voice. i kept my cool and acted normal she cried louder and said it hurt her to hear me treat her like if we were "friends". the next morning she came over to my house crying i would just rub her back, when i would pull away she would hug me and bring me closer. she tried to kiss me and then she said i completed her, and all sorts of things. we ended up having sex. she slept over for a while after. time went by and i thought that was the end of it but she still called me during the night and said she loved me and misses me. she even talked to me about what had happen that day and she said that she wanted to let me know i wasn't her second dish. that it was one of the most beautifull things we have done together and that she loves me. the next day her boyfriend contacted me asking all kinds of questions, if i had seen her and what not. i told her about this and asked her to tell him to stop texting me and told her i didnt want to get involved in her relation ship, she replied saying "shut up, i dont have one anymore" after this i decided to go to NC, one day she tried contacting me. then one day she tried to call me but a friend answered, i had gone to the bathroom and left my cellphone at the table, she then texted me this "hey sorry to bother you, i see your busy with your friends, but i feel wierd and thought of talking to you because i have a lot to tell you, but i guess ill just tell you another day, bye." then she sent one saying " never mindm i understand its not ok to bother you and you probably dont care about my problems hahaha im an idiot for calling you, its just that i imagined for a second that i could call you, but now i realize that you didnt want to answer and so your friend answered and thats great that you can ignore me, i think i need friends like yours. take care, bye" she then texted me again saying "sorry i understand that you dont want to nor have a reason why to talk to me, but im losing it. i'll see if i call you when i come back from canada (she is going on march 19 for spring break), i find it easier to forget you now that you are ignoring me, so thanks, and well i sincerly hope everything goes great for you, bye." (thats funny because when i first started the n-c thats what i said to her) then she sent one saying "you told me i could talk to you when ever i needed you, and i need you now and you are ignoring me. i hate you" i didnt reply..... next day she tried calling me again, i knew what this was going to be about.... i didnt answer then i recieved a text saying how much she was sorry and that she doesnt hate me that she loves me. i didnt reply, i got home and went to my IM she was there and we talked, i tried to ignore her the most i could then i told her the truth i told her " i dont think its ok for us to be talking while you are with some one else," "i dont want anything to do with you while you are with another person" "i love you but i want you all or nothing from you" she then started "crying" and saying that i didnt understand, she said she is not happy and that she doesnt even know if she wants to be with that guy. she did a lot of things to get my atention but i kept ignoring her, she would try to leave and i would say ok by take care, 20 minutes later she would start talking to me again. she would say things like im on medication now which i used to hate and tell her not to take it, but those were other times so i ignored her, then she said she wanted to die and that she would wait for me in the other life. once again i ignored her, then she would say how much she loves me and wants to live for ever in my chest and in my hazzel eyes. i ignored her once more then she asked if i hated her and i told her that she has given me no reason to hate her, but that she had made her decision and i was goign to respect her as long as she was happy. once again she said she wasnt happy then she did sign off for real... days have gone by and i havent heard from her anymore. i took a look at her facebook and twitter.... one day she posted this "It's just lately i've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine, to walk upon... " then the next day she posted it agiain but on her facebook. today her boyfriend posted this on her wall "hope my words keep us together steady walking but bound to trip should release but tighten my grip" could this mean its going sour for them? i dont know what to think.... help me have i lost her? tell me what you think, i have gone to NC hoping to hear that she wants to dump her boyfriend for me one day
MizzBella Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 wow. she sounds really really UNSTABLE. I know that you already know that, but I thought I would repeat it again: she sounds really really UNSTABLE. I know you miss her and want to be with her, but I'm sure everyone else is wondering why. Even if you were a jerk, moving from one relationship right into the next (rebounding) is not emotionally healthy. And, no, I don't hold a perfect bill of emotional health, but I would certainly never text someone that I hate them and love them in the same 24 hour period and expect them to think I am mentally sound. And here you are, thinking you want this girl back. My advice: enjoy being single for a while and then find a gal who is much more emotionally stable to spend some time with!
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