Sharmzy Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I had strong feelings for someone whom i thought felt the same way about me, but i guess i was wrong. According to mutual friends, she told her current girlfriend that she was only got together with me two years ago, to forget her ex. I was shattered of course but hey what can you do, right? I just want to know, how do you get over the pain of knowing the fact that the person that you loved never felt the same way about you?
babyswan Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I had strong feelings for someone whom i thought felt the same way about me, but i guess i was wrong. According to mutual friends, she told her current girlfriend that she was only got together with me two years ago, to forget her ex. I was shattered of course but hey what can you do, right? I just want to know, how do you get over the pain of knowing the fact that the person that you loved never felt the same way about you? She may have got together with you if she was lonely but there was obviously something that kept you together for two years. No one can keep an act up for 2 years. I'm sure she gave something to you in the relationship... if you weren't important to her it would have fallen apart a long time ago, if she gave you nothing then what is there to miss and why didn't you leave earlier?? What her friend said is gossip - and now - irrelavant as you aren't together. You are as free as a bird from all the pain that ever was in that relationship... free to be loved again by someone who deserves you... Also I am never sure about this - I went out with him to get over my ex business. Wen I have split with my ex's in the past, whenever I have met the next guy I have never considered it rebound. I am genuine in my attraction to people, and my feelings for them - and if things aren't right they fall apart pretty quickly - but just because it didn't work out doesn't mean it's rebound. I have had what people called be considered rebounds relationships that became LTR of 3 yrs+ ... that relationship ended because the sex died out... no other reason, it was just something I couldn't live with and needed, other than that it was a great relationship. One rule - no rebounds - is different in every case/person. I am out of another LTR recently and my ex obviously didn't have the strength of love and commitment I had for him. And that was harmful. To us both actually. Realise that you are walking away from more hurt in the long run and now have a great opportunity to get what you want and deserve not just from relationships but life and you yourself. You are free! Free to do those things that that relationship limited you from - free from whatever sacrifices you made for her... If you were still stuck with that ex - you would not be happy - and I mean sincerely happy. Yeah you could have put up with it maybe - but you are extremely likely to find someone who will give you more.... in time... even if it's just you yourself! *hug*.... we can do it
GrayClouds Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 According to mutual friends, she told her current girlfriend that she was only got together with me two years ago, to forget her ex. I was shattered of course but hey what can you do, right? First start by taking an honest look at them. If the above statement is true then she is not a high quality person, and do you really want to be with someone who can so easily use other people? Next get a pen and paper and start writing all the other unlikeable traits about her, everything from her crooked teeth, to the way she thought Miley Cyrus was a damn good artist. Everything and anything that annoyed you. Start seeing her for what she is and add to it every time you pine for her. Then start focusing on your future. Go get in shape, hang out with friends and family, start a hobby you always wanted to. Do things that makes you proud. Then think of the next girl who will actually care for you, knowing that is what you deserve. .
Author Sharmzy Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 She may have got together with you if she was lonely but there was obviously something that kept you together for two years. Sorry, i should've made myself clear. We weren't together for 2 years. We dated for about 8 months in 2008 and then broke up. She was with her current girlfriend for the entire of last year.
USMCHokie Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 "The best way to get over someone is to get on top of someone else."
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