alphamale Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 But anyway, please share your wisdom. "be willing to walk away from anyone at anytime"
Johnny M Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 "Women say they want one thing (i.e. a 'nice guy' who 'respects' them), think they want another thing (i.e. 'prince charming' from romantic novels & movies), while on a subconscious level actually want something else entirely (i.e. an 'exciting' bad boy who will take them on an emotional roller coaster ride)." That's why you should never take dating advice from women. Regardless of whether they are well-intentioned, women simply cannot give you sound advice on dating because they themselves are not consciously aware of what they actually want from a man.
xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 "be willing to walk away from anyone at anytime" Is that from De Niro in Heat?
alphamale Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Is that from De Niro in Heat? i don't know, its a common saying
Woggle Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 What my friend said is the truth. When you have many women around they are always trying to compete for your love and will even fight each other over you. When you commit to one woman they get bored with you and then resnt creeps in then she starts cheating and finally she leaves you. Don't get mad at me for simply telling it like it is.
harmfulsweetz Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 A long time ago, a friend of mine said this to some girl he treated like crap yet she kept coming back for more: "As long as there are girls like you, there will always be guys like me." Not exactly dating advice but something I like to think about when women complain about the guy they are seeing not treating them right. That actually makes loads of sense. As long as people accept the way someone treats them, people will continue to treat them that way.
marsle85 Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I've never met any guy who particularly cared whether women respected him. I'm not surprised by this. You are who you hang out with.
threebyfate Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 He's just not that into you. Whether he is or isn't is moot. If he's unwilling or incapable of meeting your needs right now, it's time to move on. Never look to potential. Unrealized potential is equivalent to undertaking a project.
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Don't eat corn-on-the-cob or spinach on a first date.
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I've never met any guy who particularly cared whether women respected him. ....You don't get out much, do you.....?
alphamale Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 "rejection is the key to success with the opposite sex" meaning the more you get rejected the more people you're asking out. its all a numbers game. you ask 10 people out and 8 will reject you but 2 will say yes
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Your logic is kind of depressing alpha. So you are saying that each woman you ask out is the same as the next one. What if one out of 8 that rejected you is the one you liked the most? And 2 that said yes are kind of meh. Are they really all equal to you?
Awesome Username Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 We teach others how to treat us. This is going to be my hurdle. I am too passive and nice. Without loveshack I might have learned this fact about myself later in the game. How about this dating advice, guys? http://blog.badonlinedates.com/2009/05/super-funny-vintage-dating-advice-funny-or-die.html
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 He's just not that into you. Whether he is or isn't is moot. If he's unwilling or incapable of meeting your needs right now, it's time to move on. Never look to potential. Unrealized potential is equivalent to undertaking a project. I agree to an extent, but he really needs to be into you AND be able to meet your needs right now.
Mr White Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 "As long as you are attracted to each other and have fun together, there is no need to think any further about a relationship, because this is what a relationship is"
Mr White Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Your logic is kind of depressing alpha. So you are saying that each woman you ask out is the same as the next one. What if one out of 8 that rejected you is the one you liked the most? And 2 that said yes are kind of meh. Are they really all equal to you? for the most part - yes, with a bit of variation at the extremes.
Mr White Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 This is going to be my hurdle. I am too passive and nice. Without loveshack I might have learned this fact about myself later in the game. How about this dating advice, guys? http://blog.badonlinedates.com/2009/05/super-funny-vintage-dating-advice-funny-or-die.html Anything vintage is allright in my book, including your hairdo.
Mr White Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 If your short term goal is an immediate lay, then your long term goals will never be achieved. LTR and marriage is about committing to the one you love for more than personal satisfaction. When you find the one you love, your goal becomes giving her (or him) as much satisfaction as she would want. And in reverse, she will give you personal satisfaction. True love seeks not to receive satisfaction but to give satisfaction. Good sex is not about receiving the climax but about giving the climax. It is not about technique but about expression. It is not just about the moment but also about the future. Good luck. And I have always liked Art's signature as well...."one day a person will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else before". To add to that... "one day that person will also make you realize that up until then all you ever had was just sex."[/QUOTE] I gotta say, the above two lines lean more towards the "worst" dating advice given - the encouragement to put everything on hold until something 'special' happens. This is equivalent to saying that the process of ending in a good relationship is completely, completely, random.
sumdude Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Good sex is not about receiving the climax but about giving the climax. It is not about technique but about expression. It is not just about the moment but also about the future. Good luck. And I have always liked Art's signature as well...."one day a person will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else before". To add to that... "one day that person will also make you realize that up until then all you ever had was just sex."[/QUOTE] I gotta say, the above two lines lean more towards the "worst" dating advice given - the encouragement to put everything on hold until something 'special' happens. This is equivalent to saying that the process of ending in a good relationship is completely, completely, random. I don't see it that way. Nothing in there to discourage anyone from dating. More the idea that one of them really stands out one dayy. Chances are you'll have to meet a lot of people to find them unless you're really lucky.
JamesM Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I gotta say, the above two lines lean more towards the "worst" dating advice given - the encouragement to put everything on hold until something 'special' happens. This is equivalent to saying that the process of ending in a good relationship is completely, completely, random. If so, then I think you are reading them wrong. It is not about putting everything on hold, but instead it is realizing that you will know one day why you have been searching for the right person. Up until that day, everyone you have met has been not quite to standards. And then you met her (or him). There is and was something different about that one. Instead of comparing her to "the standard" that you set for your partner, she becomes the standard. She causes you to think of the future. She opens your eyes to the realization that marriage and family are a possibility. Does this mean you will live happily ever after? No. What it means is that you will discover why you had questions about all of the other ones. Does it mean that you sit back and wait? Far from it. You have no clue when or where that person will come into your life. Perhaps that trip to the bar, store, beach, (fill in the blank) is where you will meet the person. And yes, perhaps it is someone you already know or are dating. One day you may realize that all along your true love has been with you. It is not about fatalism but about reality. This is not about being passive but about being active in searching out the one who will change your life.
Mr White Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Dunno, my view is that you just commit and make it work or else risk looking around every time something doesn't feel "just right", which is a lot of the time, no matter what.
blind_otter Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 "Never be with a man for what you hope he can be". I also like "Anyone can completely hide entire sides of their personality for short periods of time" - meaning, don't give your heart quickly or easily because you might end up committed to someone you don't really like, or who is downright dangerous.
JamesM Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Dunno, my view is that you just commit and make it work or else risk looking around every time something doesn't feel "just right", which is a lot of the time, no matter what. If you commit to someone for whom you have no desire to commit, then your commitment will lack a true motivation to commit. I can remember thinking years ago that loving one particular person cannot be any different than loving another. How can one person actually be more special than another? I can love one and find another and forget the first one. So it went until I met my wife. Truly.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 "There's no such thing as a soul mate. There's no such thing as a soul." Wiser words have never been spoken
livinlovin Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 "As long as you are attracted to each other and have fun together, there is no need to think any further about a relationship, because this is what a relationship is" I LOVE this one. I find myself looking towards the future and questioning so much . . . could I live with this five years down the road, is that something that would keep coming up in an argument, could I see myself marrying this person, etc . . . that I forget to enjoy the here and now.
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