NoellePV Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Hey everyone, first let me say hi to you all since I am new here. Thanks for this site, a place where we can all vent our issues out here. To tell my life of 14 years with this man is too much for me to bear right now, but as time goes on and I get to post here, I am sure more of what I went and am going through will leak out in these posts. Long story short, I am in pain, I am numb, I am crying all the time, I am sick to my stomach and I have no friends to talk to at all. While I am visiting my family in Florida, he packed all his stuff and left me without telling me. I called him to tell him what I have been doing and he is crying and telling me how much he loves me and he is driving back to chicago from ny. How can anyone do this to another human being? You have no idea how hard it is for me to even gather my thoughts to write this here, but this is about as much as I can stomach to type in this post. Oh, he left on Wednesday late night. Help, plz
jerrytodd Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Hey everyone, first let me say hi to you all since I am new here. Thanks for this site, a place where we can all vent our issues out here. To tell my life of 14 years with this man is too much for me to bear right now, but as time goes on and I get to post here, I am sure more of what I went and am going through will leak out in these posts. Long story short, I am in pain, I am numb, I am crying all the time, I am sick to my stomach and I have no friends to talk to at all. While I am visiting my family in Florida, he packed all his stuff and left me without telling me. I called him to tell him what I have been doing and he is crying and telling me how much he loves me and he is driving back to chicago from ny. How can anyone do this to another human being? You have no idea how hard it is for me to even gather my thoughts to write this here, but this is about as much as I can stomach to type in this post. Oh, he left on Wednesday late night. Help, plz Please be good to yourself and know that time will help you sort this out. We are a group of people with common histories and are here to listen and help when you are able to tell us more. We are your friends. We are sorry for your pain.
EYECANDY000 Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Hey everyone, first let me say hi to you all since I am new here. Thanks for this site, a place where we can all vent our issues out here. To tell my life of 14 years with this man is too much for me to bear right now, but as time goes on and I get to post here, I am sure more of what I went and am going through will leak out in these posts. Long story short, I am in pain, I am numb, I am crying all the time, I am sick to my stomach and I have no friends to talk to at all. While I am visiting my family in Florida, he packed all his stuff and left me without telling me. I called him to tell him what I have been doing and he is crying and telling me how much he loves me and he is driving back to chicago from ny. How can anyone do this to another human being? You have no idea how hard it is for me to even gather my thoughts to write this here, but this is about as much as I can stomach to type in this post. Oh, he left on Wednesday late night. Help, plz Hi Noelle, This site is full of people who can relate, who care, and who can give you great advice. So, welcome... I am very sorry for your pain. I too, am going through a break up. I beat myself about it so much. Its now been 7 days since I last spoke to him and its been hard. At first I couldn't eat, sleep, concentrate on work. I think I don't think I have any tear ducts left to produce more tears. But each day it gets a little more easier. I would stay in Florida with family a few extra days. Surround yourself around people who love you. Start focusing on keeping yourself healthy. A body needs food, and sleep ... although its hard try to eat something... 14 years is a long time to spend with someone and for him to leave out the blue without any explanation is disrepectful. This guy is a complete tool for doing that.. Please keep everyone posted... please stay strong...
Author NoellePV Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 Thank you for your kind words It's so hard to just speak about it let alone post something, cause when I see it out like this, I just die over and over again. This sucks so bad! I guess adding something now would be a good enough time as any now. I am staying here for a few more days, but that's only because of the bad weather back in NY that kept me from going home to an empty condo. I own it, but now I have to go back home without family there, I don't have friends, cause guess what, I gave them all up..you know the same old story on that one. Anyway, I have to fly back home to deal with the mess he left behind and clean it up so I can now sell it to go to nowhere. See I don't work, had a bad car accident way back before I met him, and I was no longer able to work due to surgeries on my neck(cervical herniations) I am in pain most of the time and then of course while I was with him, I assumed the role of housekeeper and maid and did everything for him, yes everything. I was content, but not too happy about it, but as the years went on I realized that at my age, I would never meet anyone since I don't work, don't have friends, and basically feel I don't have anything to offer someone. I like companionship and that is why I was content with him the way things were. I keep telling myself that I cannot make any contact with him, but once I get back home this week, I have no idea what I will find and if I will break down and call him. I know I would be a fool to do so and I am praying and trying to give myself pep talks that it would do no good. I know he won't come back, I mean he left NY to go to Chicago in the night and packed all his stuff while I was visiting my aging parents. ****!!! Damn him and everything else I could think of, but nothing takes the emptiness away. I don't know what to do honestly, where do I go when I sell the condo, how do I go on with some strenght? How can I make friends again too, geez I am totally lost right now.
Tashcw Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Hey Noelle, I really feel for you and understand that completely lost feeling. I'd say just take it one day at a time, one decision at a time. Don't worry about the future as by the time it arrives you WILL be feeling much happier! NC is really, really hard but it does get much much better. Think back to when you were younger - what did you like doing, or was there anything that you wanted to do? Painting / pottery? Or maybe you could volunteer somewhere for a few hours a week. Anything that is slightly different but focuses on you would be good - and you'll also find you make friends in no time. I promise it will get better. (((hugs))) xx
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