mendsley Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I have been fighting this hurt for way to long, she left me for another man almost 1.5 years ago. I must be an extremely weak person to still be hanging onto this. She has had a few boyfriends here and there and now my son tells me there is another. We were married for 10 years and she left me rot and she didnt even look back. I am gonna try to talk to a new counselor this week so hopefully the helps. I am so boring, the ex is always going to the clubs, vegas, bars, hanging with her freinds and what ever else she can do. Here I am sitting here just feeling like crap and thinking of her while she lives life to the fullest. We have a child together so I cannot go NC, any ideas ot thoughts on anything I have said? Thanks
health Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I feel your pain. Don't think of the time. She is not happy...shes actually messing up! Relationships, clubing, vegas, she's trying not to think about what a crap person she is. Your not boring. Go out, take photos with cute girls, post them up and chill. Follow your heart. Ask what can I do to improve myself today, and do it. Have minimal contact with her and focus on your kids which is where true love is!
BW007 Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Man, sounds very similar in ways. All I can say is, you have to get going and start to enjoy your life again too. You don't get any points for having no fun in your life. Me either.... It is hard to start over again and the betrayal burns , even after all this time, but feeling somehow "less than" because an ex was crappy is a waste of time.
Rearden Metal Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Ok, so there's like a 1% chance that she's gonna one day go "Oh, I should go back to my ex hubby", and within that 1% chance, it only happens IF you go out, have some damn FUN, meet some girls and do what health says and live your life... Once you do that, I bet you won't even want your ex back.
Author mendsley Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 Hello all thanks for the reply, this has been such a roller coaster ride for me. I am low one day than high the next, certain things I see, hear, smell, dream, spark a state of depression that I am really getting tired of. Life is funny how one person has to feel the pain more than the other person. You think god would make the person who did wrong feel the pain that some of have to go thru. Yeah some people deserve the be left, but I can honostly say I tried my hardest and made sure to never violate the marriage we had. I guess when you are young you don't account for when people change. I guess me finding out about this new guy kicked off some emotions. It probably has to do with me subconsciously thinking there is "hope" of getting back together. Maybe this needed to happen, maybe this time she will stick with this guy long enough for me to get over this heartless b!tch. There was a time when I tried dating and it seemed to help, I do NOT want to find a rebound, but when I was talking to these other women I did feel better. I am torn between am I ready to date or not. What are some signs that maybe I could be ready?
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