Barky Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 It also put's into our heads that a girl is not promiscious and is relationship material. I never assume that just because she's not sleeping with me, that means she hasn't been a total sl*t with every other guy in town. In fact, that's one of the reasons I dump a chick if she doesn't get with me quick. I think to myself, "This chick has probably slept with dudes on the first date. But since she's not doing so with me means she's stringing me along. Me no like."
Ruby Slippers Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 This thread, particularly viewed alongside the "women who have sex are sluts" threads, confirms the fact that women should have sex when they want to, without worrying what men think about it. You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't. So don't worry about it. 1
St. Nick Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 The longer you wait the more men who will leave before it happens. Is that really a surprise? For me, if it's not on by the second date, LATEST third date if there was serious making out on the second, then I'm gone. Oddly, the longest relationships I've had--one 4-year, one 3-year, and two 2-year--have all been with women who slept with me on the first date. The two longest were with women I specifically got together with just for sex. For some reason I'm just compatible with super-sexual chicks I guess 100% agree! Thanks man, I thought I was the only guy who felt this way. She wants to wait and get to know a dude after the 6th date? I still don't get what she can't get to know about me by the 2nd date. Am I gonna be any different on the 6th date than I was on the 2nd date? How far did he get with you & how long did it take him? He probably got tired of driving home with a hard-on. Yup. You got a chick, get to second base, and then that's all, and then you go home horny to porn.......most guys get pissed off real quick with that crap. I expect sex to happen ASAP after she passionately responds when we kiss. Waiting longer or a specific number of dates will send me running for the hills. This is the generic problem as I see it: When we try to protect our emotions too vigorously, we will turn off of a lot of healthy people by our controlling behaviour. This is the same as "What we fear, we create." In other words, there is no too early. You sir, should write a book on this stuff. He most definately lost interest. Here's something women need to understand: the fact men want sex doesn't make us evil. It only makes us human. Playing mind games by withholding sex is passive-aggressive bull****, and is every bit as offensive as men pressuring women to have sex against their will. The sad thing about this brilliant bit of information you posted is that women will discard it because it's the truth.
Johnny M Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Is it possible to hold off too long? Most definitely YES.
carhill Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 This thread, particularly viewed alongside the "women who have sex are sluts" threads, confirms the fact that women should have sex when they want to, without worrying what men think about it. You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't. So don't worry about it. I agree. And more power to you My personal boundary is, if a woman is otherwise affectionate and overtly sexual in her words and behaviors while dating, but balks at actual sex (like fellatio, cunnilingus and intercourse), I am bye-bye. You can't have it both ways. A woman can be affectionate and interested without being overtly sexual, and that's fine too and, if I feel likewise, I'll wait to see if there's progression. After all, spending time with someone one enjoys is a wonderful part of living. The guys who want early sex and with a very sexually overt female are definitely good matches for high-numbers, experienced women who enjoy sharing themselves sexually with many men. It is about compatibility
Barky Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 The guys who want early sex and with a very sexually overt female are definitely good matches for high-numbers, experienced women who enjoy sharing themselves sexually with many men. My theory is that every woman is a "high numbers" girl until proven otherwise That's why I don't put up with waiting for sex. I assume she's banged every other guy in town and now she wants me to wait. It's insulting. If I could absolutely positively be sure that that's not the case, I might have more patience. But these days most women have had easy sex with at least one guy. If she expects me to wait for something she gave away immediately to some other dude, ain't gonna happen.
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