VERBYEAH Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 (edited) made a big mistake, and something I might regret forever unless I alt east try to fix it, or explain myself and find her. Maybe 1 month before I saw her I just got over a relationship (that was complicated and messy) and I wanted to meet females, but I didn't want to rush into another relationship. I was really looking to meet some females, and have some friendships that might turn into relationships, that was my idea. To try to make a long story short, me and another girl first noticed each roughly 3 months ago. Our eyes always seemed to come together, from the first moment we saw each other. We had a strange connection without even talking to each other, I honestly felt like this is someone I've been looking forever in my life, I pretty sure she felt the same even before talking to each other. All this happened 1 month after my last relationship, I was excited but yet I didn't want to rush things. Our connection physically was off the charts, yet in sheer luck we had a soul connection without even talking to each other as well. Whenever we'd see each other we'd keep teasing each other, non verbally for maybe almost 2 months. I started to notice her always showing up at this the same times I was at this location. Soon enough we started smiling at each other, and always finding ourselves closer but I guess just enjoying what was happening, atleast I was. Going forward I didn't see her for maybe 3 weeks, which was odd, then I noticed her again and I talked to her for the first time. (Now I seem to think I didn't see her for this gap because she thought I wasn't interested, that normally guys would of already asked her number after the flirting we did) She seems enthralled that I was talking to her, and we found out we extremely passionate into the same hobbies, which wasn't surprising to me since I felt it even before talking to her. At this point when we talked I felt the world stop, and we both where looking into other eyes so deep for almost 10 minutes, it was magic. Obviously I don't know if she felt it it too, although I really think she did. We said goodbye, I'd see her again soon. I did see her again, in fact she would now show up almost everytime I was at this location and we'd smile at each other and we'd talk for a few minutes. A week before vday she was at the location extremely excited to see me, also wearing makeup that I never seen her wear, it was strange. We talked about her day, and I then (now see) made the mistake of talking bout a friend visting me and how I was excited to see them, and doing an activity that we (the girl at the location) both enjoyed. In other words, I said I was excited to go do something with someone, and I didn't even invite her to join in this similar activity, which I clearly could have and should have. We said goodbye and I touched her hand. I didn't feel like she hated me, I still felt a warmth from her if that makes sense. So you can guess I haven't see her now in weeks. From a female perspective, has she not come back because she is not interested or because she is upset, figures i just want to be friends. I know very well I did not handle this correctly considering how much I feel for her,.. I really don't know exactly why I didn't ask her, somehow my mind was continued to just enjoy our meetings together. It is something I wish I could go back and change, something more then I ever have before. I guess my question is not so much how I screwed up, but is it worth it for me to find her, to let her know how I really felt, and I wanted to go slow.. and I'm sorry for going too slow? From a female perspective, would you even listen to a guy after all this, after 3 months of all this. I honestly feel she could of been my soul mate, honestly I think she felt the same way...I honestly feel like I might of really hurt her. I don't think I could live the rest of my like knowing something like that --- ryan Edited March 1, 2010 by VERBYEAH
linwood Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I`m not female but I think you should go out of your way to find her and tell her.
Satisfaction Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Of course she will listen to you. Go find her and ask her out. Get up from behind your PC and start looking for her!
lordWilhelm Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 From the whole way you described this, I notice you place a lot of meaning on all kinds of little things, and more worrying seem to think. That's not cool, and this is a good time to take matters in your hands. By now of course she's probably assuming you're not interested when you haven't acted on it. Ask her out, duh!
TaurusTerp Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 You should have sacked up. 3 months and you didn't get her number, ask her out, nothing? Fortune favors the bold. This should be a learning lesson for the future.
make me believe Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 It's been three months and you haven't even gotten her number or seen her outside of this 'location' that you both show up at every week? Wha...? You are putting a LOT of stock in a lot of teeeeny little things (a hand touch? a "warmth?"), and that's dangerous. You need to step up and ask for her number or ask her on a date next time you see her. If she's mad that you didn't invite her out with you & your friend, she has no reason to be since you guys have NEVER hung out before!
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I'm not entirely convinced the original post isn't a trolling attempt.
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