klarish03 Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 May you please help me! My husband has so many restrictions including type of friends that I can hang with. These are ladies not men. Because he can't allow me to be near any man for any reason. He is 13 years old than me, african. We are in different cities, different weather..I am in this terrible winter with loneliness surroundings..I really need people around me...This is because I am studying. Ok..this time he allowed me to go to dance...BUT I sholud never dance with a man...even my friend's boyfriend. I find it so unrealistic... I need my life back. I like people and people likes me...I have been in this marriage for 5 years. All other things are OK...except this one. May I get your views please! Thanks in advance.
ruthlessflower Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Is this the only controlling aspect he has over your relationship? It doesn't sound healthy as you need friends, he sounds jealous and as if he can't trust you. Has he always been like this?
Disintegration Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 He may just be afraid you'll hang out with the wrong crowd and you may do something to jeopordize your relationship. He should trust you, that is what a relationship should be based off of. Seems a bit controlling, I mean not having certain female friends is strange, I can understand more why he would be particular when it came to males. You need to talk to him about his ways, so he sees it from your point of view.
Author klarish03 Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 Thanks for response. I am 36 years old.
Author klarish03 Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 Thanks dear! I think so. He is like this even when we are living together.He has been insisting that he has nothing else in this world that is precious like me. He was married and divorced. So he doesn't wanna loose me again. Now I am at school, very far from him...He gets crazy...
Author klarish03 Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 Dear thanks...You can not imagine! How much time I use in all 5 years that I am married to him..so politely..I ask him about this. You know what..he usually calls me maybe five times in a day...but whenever he knows I am partying he can call after every five to ten minutes. It really bothers me. You can talk to him otday ...seems like he has understand...tomorrow he goes back to the same tracks. This place is so cold and so lonely!I might be depressed if I do what he wants. So many don'ts.
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