PhillyDude Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 I hate IM so much mainly because so many women expect all your replies and question to be INSTANT. Not realizing that you can be doing other things in addition to talking to her. I had women judge me by IM conversation and no longer wanted to talk because I wasn't responding fast enough? Anyone hate IM???
xpaperxcutx Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 There are other ways to get in contact. Email, phone, or just plain face to face. How about ditching the online thing for some real meet ups with people who will talk to you face to face?
cg27 Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 I am not a fan of it. Along time ago I would use it for the first few conversations. After that I would ask them for their number.
Barky Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I love it. When women ask to do the IM it usually means they're easy. Instant gratification.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 I love it. When women ask to do the IM it usually means they're easy. Instant gratification. It means she is easy?
alphamale Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 no wonder people are so shy these days - there is little real life interaction
Barky Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 It means she is easy? Not always but sometimes. It means she wants to escalate the interaction ASAP. And it's easier for me to turn the talk sexual than through email.
bac Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I hate IM a lot. But for some strange reason, I met my best man by my first communication with IM.
Stung Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I guess I'm in the minority but I love using IM for communication, and used it often in early stages of relationships when I was dating very happily. Not because I slept with everyone but because I am more comfortable in a typographical medium; as a writer, I am comfortable writing, unsurprisingly. I've never really been that much of a phone person and these days I far prefer using txt, email and IM with most people. I don't have a problem with people not IMing me back immediately as long as they have a handle on common courtesy, i.e. if you're going to disappear for a couple hours for a meeting or if you're going to be preoccupied and sporadic with replies due to some project, mention it to me. Should take five seconds or less. If you have a tendency to leave your computer up with your instant messenger running while you are nowhere near your desk, mention it. As long as I know you're not just dicking me around or being thoughtless, I would never get annoyed by time lapses in communication as I live in the real world and am likely doing something else too. I'm sure there are virtual prima donnas out there, but there are also a lot of guys who have zero net etiquette, and the two have probably pushed each others buttons a lot over the years. There are people who would never just put the phone down and walk away (because obviously it would be rude to not at least muster a hurried "Hey I gotta go I'll call you back when I get a chance,") yet will simply walk away from an IM convo for an hour or two and then blink with shock if they are remonstrated with.
BobSacamento Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 The worst is when you have to leave and do something else, you know because you have a LIFE, and they complain that your ending the conversation.
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