samsungxoxo Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 what I don't consider anything done online cheating? Example: If I was dating my next potential boyfriend and we get into the discussion of what is consider cheating, should I explain my definition of it? I don't know what would his reaction be? How would a man react if I flat out told him that neither camming, cybering or phone sex is cheating to me? Only pure physical face-to-face contact (kissing, making-out, oral, sex, etc.) is cheating to me.
SarahRose Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Sure if you want, but just make it clear you me you looking at guys on cam. He may take it as a green light for him to do it but wouldn't think you were referring to yourself doing it.
Author samsungxoxo Posted February 28, 2010 Author Posted February 28, 2010 Sure if you want, but just make it clear you me you looking at guys on cam. He may take it as a green light for him to do it but wouldn't think you were referring to yourself doing it.In that case, I would have to inform that he can't just have it his way. It's suppose to be even... 50/50.
hats Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Yeah, I think that's far enough outside most guys' expectations that it'd be best to bring it up beforehand.
Author samsungxoxo Posted February 28, 2010 Author Posted February 28, 2010 Yeah, I think that's far enough outside most guys' expectations that it'd be best to bring it up beforehand.Yes I will be forward about it. I don't think there is a problem with it unless it becomes a terrible addiction to the point he only focuses on that 24 hours a day. I think there is something eccentric about me. I know many other women would have gone ballistic but it has none of those effects on me. I see it as an online exercise and it would turn me on if I caught him at it.
tami-chan Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Yes I will be forward about it. I don't think there is a problem with it unless it becomes a terrible addiction to the point he only focuses on that 24 hours a day. I think there is something eccentric about me. I know many other women would have gone ballistic but it has none of those effects on me. I see it as an online exercise and it would turn me on if I caught him at it. I see a slippery slope...but whatever floats your boat.
Author samsungxoxo Posted February 28, 2010 Author Posted February 28, 2010 What about online relationships?As long as he doesn't do in real life with the online woman then there's nothing to worry about. I used to dirty talk to a few guys online but we never had intention of meeting in real life. There was only one time I joked about traveling to his country but I never chatted with him again afterwards. The point is not taking it too serious. It's not like someone in the family die or they actually had a real-life affair.
threebyfate Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 samsung, yes, you should tell any future guys about this. I will ask you how you feel it's logical to say that cyber-sex is not cheating and yet, your last relationship was an LDR. How can anyone possibly know the difference, beyond having the ability to read minds and hearts? When you're talking about human beings, there are no absolutes.
Author samsungxoxo Posted February 28, 2010 Author Posted February 28, 2010 I will ask you how you feel it's logical to say that cyber-sex is not cheating and yet, your last relationship was an LDR.It was only online dirty writing (it never involved using the cam). I never had emotional attachments for those few guys and ex didn't quite mind that.
alphamale Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Example: If I was dating my next potential boyfriend and we get into the discussion of what is consider cheating, should I explain my definition of it? no, everyone knows what cheating is already
Author samsungxoxo Posted February 28, 2010 Author Posted February 28, 2010 no, everyone knows what cheating is alreadyBut the majority assumes online sex or phone sex is cheating except me. I'm not in the majority so the guy would assume I think like the other women.
alphamale Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 But the majority assumes online sex or phone sex is cheating except me. its not true cheating
annxxdisaster Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 As long as he doesn't do in real life with the online woman then there's nothing to worry about. I used to dirty talk to a few guys online but we never had intention of meeting in real life. There was only one time I joked about traveling to his country but I never chatted with him again afterwards. The point is not taking it too serious. It's not like someone in the family die or they actually had a real-life affair. What if there was a greater emotional investment into that relationship than he was giving to you? Maybe there aren't any intentions of truly doing anything in real life, but if he's ignoring you when you're by him in person to maybe just simply chat to a girl online? I wouldn't call it cheating either, I suppose. But I sure would feel cheated out of attention.
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 What if there was a greater emotional investment into that relationship than he was giving to you? Maybe there aren't any intentions of truly doing anything in real life, but if he's ignoring you when you're by him in person to maybe just simply chat to a girl online? I wouldn't call it cheating either, I suppose. But I sure would feel cheated out of attention.As long as it does not become an addiction then there wouldn't be a problem. If it increases greatly to the point I'm a ghost then a schedule would need to be established.
SuburbanOblivion Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 LOL..My SO and I became online friends and flirted a bit in the beginning. Slippery slope there, trust me.
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