bananaboat11 Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Not only is it healthy, it shows your partner how much you care about them. It is also a great way for you to push forward in life with few setbacks and show how well you truly can cope with heartbreak and stress. I think everyone should rebound. Oh, and I haven't even mentioned the feelings of the reboundee... G-d knows they'll be so delighted you used them to exonerate your own emotions.. and to fill an empty void that lingers deep within your cold, black, lifeless heart. Such a great time! /rant I never rebounded nor will I ever... but I know how it feels.
abdellost Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 WEll..what if your dating and just being with someone and letting them know its just dating, nothing serious? no commitment
AgeOfUninnocence Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Is it possible for the Dumper to be rebounding though? I just made a thread about this in the Breaking Up Forum, but basically, my ex dumped me and got this very odd new girlfriend within 10 days. I'm trying to tell myself it's a rebound, but could a Dumper ever really have a "rebound" if they're the one who chose to end the relationship, and therefore, the one who chose to be with someone else? I'm the Dumpee, but I could never see myself rebounding... I just don't see what that would achieve, and I wouldn't want to hurt someone that I chose to rebound with.
Ilovecake Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 (edited) What exactly constitutes a rebound? Isn't it possible that you can truly fall for someone shortly after ending a relationship? My ex started dating his now wife 2 weeks after we broke up and we were in a 6 year relationship. He's been married to her for 12 years, is that a rebound? BTW no ill feelings his wife is a doll and I really like her. I really don’t think you can set a specific time frame as to when it’s OK to start dating again without it being a rebound. If you do the one night stand thing how can that be a rebound if both parties have agreed to intimacy right after meeting? You might be rebounding but are you hurting anyone if both parties are consensual? Edited March 1, 2010 by Ilovecake
Fouts Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 could a Dumper ever really have a "rebound" if they're the one who chose to end the relationship, and therefore, the one who chose to be with someone else? It's a rebound, but it fills a different void. Someone who gets rid of their partner wants something fun and carefree, a relief from the burden they've just gotten rid of. Someone who got dumped usually searches for something intimate to feel better about themselves and/or to try and make the person who dumped them feel jealous. Either way rebounds are good and necessary, not sure why anyone is against them.
Fouts Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 What exactly constitutes a rebound? Isn't it possible that you can truly fall for someone shortly after ending a relationship? My ex started dating his now wife 2 weeks after we broke up and we were in a 6 year relationship. He's been married to her for 12 years, is that a rebound? BTW no ill feelings his wife is a doll and I really like her. I really don’t think you can set a specific time frame as to when it’s OK to start dating again without it being a rebound. If you do the one night stand thing how can that be a rebound if both parties have agreed to intimacy right after meeting? You might be rebounding but are you hurting anyone if both parties are consensual? A rebound is just the percentages of it lovecake. Of course when someone breaks up with you or you break up with someone you rarely move into a perfect relationship on the next try, so it ends up being a rebound. I don't think I've ever intentionally rebounded with someone, but have had a few of them.
ItsAllGoodAgain Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 In my last relationship, the one that brought me here, I was the reboundee. In my case I was fed a bunch of BS and fell for it. I despise her for not being honest with me and allowing me to continue to fall for her when she knew all along what could and ultimately did happen. She was dumped by her ex-baby daddy, I came along and made her feel loved and happy, he came back and she dumped me to return to him. For me, however, I feel that if you're honest with the reboundee and not hide anything its kind of up to them to stick around. But you should never let it go too far to where someone does get hurt. I've had a few "rebound girls" since I was dumped and it helped me tremendously in my process of moving on. It's nice to have someone there for sure.
Ilovecake Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 A rebound is just the percentages of it lovecake. Of course when someone breaks up with you or you break up with someone you rarely move into a perfect relationship on the next try, so it ends up being a rebound. I don't think I've ever intentionally rebounded with someone, but have had a few of them. That's kind of what I was thinking. Most of the time I didn't know it was a rebound. Never did it intentionally either.
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