Quick poll -- being asked to coffee/tea for lunchbreak = interest or friendliness?

[Vertex]

Vertex, it sounds like you're afraid of rejection. You need to get over that. Really, who cares if she rejects you? Like I said, her loss. You gotta go for it!

 

I care if she rejects me because then I lose a potential friend, really.

 

I am also afraid of rejection because I don't want to get rejected by a false metric. The way I act around new people is totally different than how I act once I relax. I'd rather be rejected for what I'd consider a more "legitimate" reason from my "truer" interaction style, unless someone "rejects me because they need someone to not be nervous around new people" or some other metric of similar structure. XD