littlewhiterose Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 What do you look for when trying to gauge a person's interest? Do you go by body language? Facial expressions? Tone of the voice? How about if it's by email? I'm curious as to what men look out for when talking/approaching a woman. I've found that sometimes if I'm being polite, it sometimes gets misconstrued for something else, sometimes interest when that's not even the case. I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong? Like sending an unintentional green light? Is there something I should/shouldn't be doing/communicating?
tkgirl Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 What do you look for when trying to gauge a person's interest? Do you go by body language? Facial expressions? Tone of the voice? How about if it's by email? I'm curious as to what men look out for when talking/approaching a woman. I've found that sometimes if I'm being polite, it sometimes gets misconstrued for something else, sometimes interest when that's not even the case. I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong? Like sending an unintentional green light? Is there something I should/shouldn't be doing/communicating? Sometimes you can just look at a guy for a second and he'll think "yeah, she totally wants me"... guys are funny that way! I don't think there's anything you can really do but be yourself. You can't really control anything else... a guy is either going to be attracted to you or he isn't.
JohnM Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 All the things you mentioned come in to play when considering attraction signals. They kind of make a mathematical equation ;D Most body language is instant, you can always mirror to make the other feel at ease. Body language is massive though, theres a lot you can read into and give off yourself. I wouldnt think about tone so much. Perhaps you're a quite open person and so people can read you many ways. If you know somebody likes you just be careful with your choice of words and not to be flirty as even minimal body language/contact and banter can be misinterpreted as something much much more. Thats not your fault, its just they will read it that way as its what they desire.
Green Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 I stoped gauging interest a long time ago. If I decide I like a girl I just assume that she likes me back until proven wrong. I find putting yourself out there and opening yourself up for rejection in fact almost forcing that rejection is the best way to be romantic with a woman. The only way to come off as confident and genuine is to just be yourself once you decide you like a girl. If a girl refuses to spend time with me even if the excuse is "I really want to but I'm busy with x" I will eventualy get the picture. But I would rather be dense and upset a girl who is shy to say she isn't into me then scare off to easy from a girl who liked me. My current gf didn't show many signs of interest in the begining. Lucky for me I didn't give up to easy or I wouldn't have had the pleasure of being with her over a year now.
Author littlewhiterose Posted February 28, 2010 Author Posted February 28, 2010 Thanks guys. I do try to be careful but I also wanted to ask what my part possibly is in it. I guess 'tis what it is.
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