jato Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and things are getting boring especially sex life. (side note: He loves sex, he has an enormous collection of porns.) My boyfriend loved making out and having physical contacts with me in the very beginning, he got excited really easily. But like after a year or so, I guess I have gained some weight or whatever reason he has, he just stops. I asked him before, he just said he's not very interested in sex anymore, I asked if its because of me, he denied and said he loves me not only cause he wants to f*** me. But come on, he still watches porn all the time, asking me for bjs and masturbates when I am not around. I am happy cos he loves me not for my body but this seriously makes me unconfident about my appearances to him. Everytime I touch him at night, he will just push me away and says he's sleepy. It seems like he's bored of me, physically, no doubts that women have needs too right? It just makes me so frustrated, I have tried many ways to spice it up, role plays and whatsoever, but he just thinks I am weird. I am so afraid that he's bored of me, what do u guys think:(
Clep Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 I think he sounds lazy. My guy used to be like that when he was smoking lots of pot, drinking and had emotional problems. He was unhappy with himself so he had a sex drive but didn't want to go through the whole act with anyone....he just wanted to get off quick. He addressed his issues and our sex life is very active now. The other thing I have heard is that when men are involved in porn their interest in "normal" looking women is decreased...just another thought.
BellaMoon Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Give him space, go work out (physically/mentally/spiritually), feel and be confident within yourself and he'll come running back (maybe you will have even moved on by then). It sounds like you're putting a lot more effort into the situation than he is. Relationships need to be 50/50. Do your own thing, if he notices then maybe he'll adjust his behavior, if not, move on.
SarahRose Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Dump him. These things don't get any better
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