Pizzaman81 Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Let me finish that sentence. At what age do you stop thinking that if a man asks you out to an event or something, that then there's a 100% chance he is interested in you and doesn't want to be just friends? Hmm?? 21...??? 24??? 40???
Clep Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 I do not think 100% that he want's more than just friendship, but it is highly unlikely he wants just friendship. I am 40 and I have yet to come across more than a handful of men that are actually interested in only friendship. That has nothing to do with a progression in my perceptions with age, but day to day experiences to this date.
SarahRose Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Never met a man who wanted to be just friend with me.
lofi_tokyo Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 I do not think 100% that he want's more than just friendship, but it is highly unlikely he wants just friendship. I'm 21 and I'd say my line of thinking is about the same.
tami-chan Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Depends on the man, depends on the situation... but I agree, I think that men never just want to be friends, and so I took every invitation with the idea that he likes me. So far, I've been right every time! really? wow..... I never assume...maybe the guy just wants to "get to know me better" but not necessarily "date" me? I can be oblivious....
tami-chan Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 = "hm nice boobs" never friendship. <looks at chest> hmmm...i think you have a point.....
CarrieT Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 <looks at chest> hmmm...i think you have a point..... Same here. Except that I live in San Francisco and the only guys who ask me out are gay and it is for dinner and mutual FagHagging. Honestly, I don't think there are heterosexual men my age in San Francisco. At this point in their lives, they have been married and have been moved into the suburbs, rarely venturing into the city alone. So, I would say, "Never" and "All The Time."
mortensorchid Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Never. You never stop thinking that, doesn't matter what age you are.
Unsuccessful Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 In my case, when a guy asks me to an event, there is a 100% chance that he wants a ONS or FWB. Year after year, no one who communicates with me ever wants to be my boyfriend.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 What? You mean all guys ask us out because they want to date us? I guess I'm stuck at that age where unless they specifically said it was a " date" I would not think pass it being a " hang out". It's really funny though, one of my friends actually have alot of guy friends that she sees as friends, yet when she tells me that they're flirting with her and she has no idea why, I couldn't help but shake my head. I understand the concept that most men will be interested in every girl they meet, but at my age I think there's still a slight selfishness on my part that if I decide to friendzone them, I expect them to automatically be the same way about me.
threebyfate Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Ladies, At What Age Do You Stop Thinking... I stopped thinking between the ages of 12 - 17! Not much else permeated my thoughts, beyond guys! Let me finish that sentence. At what age do you stop thinking that if a man asks you out to an event or something, that then there's a 100% chance he is interested in you and doesn't want to be just friends? Hmm?? 21...??? 24??? 40???Oh, oh, you want to know this? It's less about age and more about the guy, his body language, facial expressions and what he says. It also depends on how well I know him, as in historical relationship, what event or something he asks me to and also, when he asks. For example, a work-related guy, who asks me for a business lunch or dinner. If his signals were friendly but not in the least flirtatious, either would be considered a function of business, with a tiny cautionary for the dinner.
sally4sara Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Let me finish that sentence. At what age do you stop thinking that if a man asks you out to an event or something, that then there's a 100% chance he is interested in you and doesn't want to be just friends? Hmm?? 21...??? 24??? 40??? When I'm in a monogamous relationship; age isn't relative here. It is about if I am able to reciprocate any less platonic advances. If I am not available to any potential advances, I'm not concerned with what his intentions might be.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Well, at 30, I've never had anyone want to only be my friend. Sometimes it only took one meet up for them to state their intentions, some guys hung around for more than five years, but those usually come with a confession of "I'm completely in love with you." I've always wanted a guy friend who literally saw me as only a friend, but I've never found one, and at this point, I doubt I ever will. I always assume a guy wants more with me and I'm always right! lol
Awesome Username Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 If I do end up broadcasting to people that I'm dating someone right now, I get to look forward to almost all of my guy friends talking to me 90% less often. The thought that guys only ask me to go somewhere because they eventually want sex, really makes me sad. I guess I'll have to start facing facts though.
SadandConfusedWA Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 For me it's the whole vibe. If say I have known a guy for a while and hang out with him in a group of friends and he were to ask me to an event and there was no or minimal flirting beforehand, I would assume it's just as friends. If it's a married co-worker and asks me to lunch or to a pub for drinks, I would also assume it's just as friends. If it's someone that I have just met and he is single, then I would think that it's 100% date.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Well I ask this is... I'm trying to figure out if this girl THINKS i am taking her out on a date because I am interested or just hanging out. I mean it all depends on how she acts around me. The other day, she seemed nervous, trying to find things to say. I didn't really flirt, but I would open the passenger door for her when she enters. I think next time I will make more moves.
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