Meminger Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 I'm new to this site, as you can probably tell by my post count... But, I've been reading around a bit for the past few days and finally joined because I already respect so many of the members -- due to both the acceptance and the maturity I have seen. =] Anyhow, I've been in an LDR for nearly 7 months, now. We met online and our first time actually seeing one another in person will happen in 40 days. I'm terrified. The two of us are very much in love. But, naturally, we are both a little afraid that we won't feel the same in person as we do over MSN, webcam and the phone. Of course, we prefer not to talk about it...the thought of this being a silly little internet romance that isn't going anywhere is obviously not nicest thing to think about... Naturally, no one can tell me that it's going to work out perfectly (because A] only my SO and I know everything about our relationship and B] nothing is "perfect"), and that's not what I am looking for. Mostly, I just want to hear a few happy endings from people who have been in this situation (and even a few not-so-happy if you care to share.) How was the moment the two of you finally embraced? How long did it take after the first meeting to see one another again? (If all goes well, we are hoping for sometime in July or August.) Was your attraction what it had been prior to actually seeing him/her? I would absolutely love to hear your stories! Thanks! =]
DataJunkie Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I just joined up as well. My GF is on her way back to Vancouver BC from our first visit here in Denver and my stomach has a giant hole in it. We started dating at the end of October and really hit it off. We spent 4 hrs a day on gmail chat and a few more on skype video chatting. Due to schedules we finally met Feb 12th. However, we used that time to build our relationship through communicating, sending gifts, etc. Like you we were both a bit worried. After talking to each other more than any other person I have ever talked with in my life, our fears were completely pointless. We hugged in the airport and I took her out to eat. About 30 min later the awkwardness disappeared and a very passionate kiss ensued. The remaining 16 days were amazing. Everything from cooking dinner to snowshoeing was a blast. I am flying to Vancouver in May and can not wait. I was very attracted to her on cam, her FB pictures, things we sent back and forth, etc. It is 1000 times as intense in real life. As for the silly internet relationship, I think you should toss that idea. While an online LD relationship is difficult it is by no means impossible or any less real.
Author Meminger Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 Thanks so much, Datajunkie! Your post really made me smile and so much more excited for our meeting! I'm hoping that our meeting will simply be the same as our first webcam experience. We were nervous as heck for the first couple of minutes, but the moment we smiled at one another it all disappeared and we simply got lost in being able to actually look at one another.
Els Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 The most important thing to remember when you meet is that it won't be the same. The person won't be exactly how you imagine him to be (even with the help of webcam/mic). However, if you both truly have created a strong intellectual and emotional bond online, you will most likely be even crazier about him in real life, because those things don't change. As long as you don't spoil it by having a preconceived notion of what he should be like in real life and closing your mind to anything that appears different. I've done it before - the first meeting was wonderful, although nervousness and awkwardness definitely was there in the first couple of hours or so.
aerogurl87 Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 The most important thing to remember when you meet is that it won't be the same. The person won't be exactly how you imagine him to be (even with the help of webcam/mic). However, if you both truly have created a strong intellectual and emotional bond online, you will most likely be even crazier about him in real life, because those things don't change. As long as you don't spoil it by having a preconceived notion of what he should be like in real life and closing your mind to anything that appears different. I've done it before - the first meeting was wonderful, although nervousness and awkwardness definitely was there in the first couple of hours or so. Agreed. That's how things were with my ex. He looked pretty much the same on cam as he did in person, but there were some differences. But I was so in love with him as a person, that I didn't really notice. I'm hoping for the same thing to happen with this new guy though. And being nervous is ordinary since you don't really know what to expect. You'll be meeting this guy you've fallen for the first time in real life. You'll be seeing him for the first time, smelling his scent, hearing his voice without the help of some electronic device, all those things. Just try not to fill in the blanks beforehand too much.
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