spiderowl Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 (edited) I saw profile I liked on a dating site and, unusually for me, wrote a few lines to the guy concerned. I just said he had a nice profile. He didn't have a picture and was a couple of hours away so I thought it would be nice to chat - I really hadn't thought any further than that as I assumed he wouldn't be interested in anything long-distance anyway (it said so on his profile and mine). He sent a nice reply and I replied to that. We exchanged a couple of messages and I got the feeling he was just replying to be polite so left the message for a while as I wasn't sure what to do next. He wrote again, making it clear he wanted to keep in touch. He also sent me a picture, which was nice, and his landline number. To cut a long story short, we have been communicating now for about 2-3 weeks by email and text and he has phoned me almost every day. We are sharing more about each other. Having contacted the guy first on an impulse, just out of curiosity really, I am now wondering what I've got into. He is sort of pursuing me, it seems, though he hasn't said anything romantic and only talked of meeting as in 'I'm sure we'll meet one day' and '[your town] isn't that far away'. I haven't mentioned meeting. So as we seem to be getting on well, I'm wondering what's going on. If he's just being friendly, why does he want to phone me every day? We've talked about other relationships in our past but not the one between us. He seems very nice, considerate and a total gentleman. I would like to meet a nice man to go out with and be with romantically, but he is a bit far away for that to be easy. As we've been in touch so much though, I'd feel a bit weird about seeing someone else. It's all very odd. He's mentioned he might see someone else he's seen in the past, for a cup of coffee, but has made it clear it wouldn't be a romantic thing. I know I don't owe him anything, but in a way I feel I do. I'm just going with the flow at the moment, but haven't been in this situation before. I do like him and, if it wasn't for the distance, would definitely like to meet him. What do you make of this? Edited February 28, 2010 by spiderowl
mammax3 Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Going with the flow sounds like a good idea, especially with the fact you haven't met him IRL (yet?). I understand your point about how it may be weird to see others since you've been chatting to your friend for a few weeks. IMHO, I don't think that a few weeks of emails or phone chats makes an exclusive relationship, especially if there's been indications that it's friendly and chatty, not romantic.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 He's interested in you and wants to see if there is any potential. Since he doesn't have a picture, he may not be getting a lot of hits and the hits he does get are likely to pique his interest. Being interested in someone isn't an exclusive thing though - he is on a dating site after all, and may have a couple of different people he is interested in.
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