Winger6 Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Haven't posted here in a while because I felt my ex and I were making headway on getting back together, but here goes... My ex broke up with me and ended up moving on sexually with another guy the week after. She told me she did it because she was very upset with me and that since I wasn't talking to her (NC) she kept in contact with him. Well NC lasted for about 20 days, and then she finally made legit contact and said she feels she may have made a mistake by breaking up with me. She said this other guy doesn't compare to me and that she needs to figure out if she is missing me myself or missing the relationship we had. I gave her a chance because she said she wanted to see me. She said she doesn't want this new guy and that it comes down to either ME or No one (single). She quit hanging out with that guy and started talking to me more regularly again even going so far as to come and see me 100 miles away. She hasn't budged by saying she wants to be with me or not yet. Anytime we start talking about "us" she gets real frustrated and says she still doesn't know and that she just wants to spend time with me to make sure she makes the right decision and tells me to quit being so serious all the time and just enjoy the time spent with her. I cannot help but feel scared for myself that she will not take me back in the end and that I am just helping her "get over me". Today I tried communicating to her that it hurts me to keep seeing her like this. She acknowledged that it is indeed selfish of her to keep doing what shes doing and that she doesn't want to hurt me anymore, but she remains indecisive. I WAS at terms with the breakup and now I just want to be with her or to be away from her. I don't want to keep seeing her if I am not going to end up with her in the end. I tried telling her that the only wrong choice is to not be making ANY choice (spinning her wheels). She agreed. What is the right thing to do in this case? It feels like I'm so closed to landing a second chance, but also at the same time I fear for my own sanity. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks
merrygoroundandround Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 I am having the same problem. My ex is involved with a very controlling guy now though... She stopped seeing him, but now left to see him again today. Last night she told me that she was going to work on our relationship. I am lost!!
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