My boyfriend is going to Vegas ALONE for his birthday

[BradyBunch67]

Okay ...so here i am , insecure and it is killing me that my boyfriend has chose to go to vegas alone to celebrate his 40th birthday ! He loves , loves, loves to party and when he drinks he loves sex even more ! He has said that what happens in vegas stays in vegas and that worries me even more ! We live together and at the time he booked his trip we had broken up ! He saids now that he will pay for my flight but i would have to have my own spending money and i just dont have it ! He is going to be gone for 5 nights and i just hope i can handle it. Any suggestions please ???

[Lauriebell82]

Last year my fiance went to Vegas for his friend's bachelor party. I was a little irked about it at first but I realized that I trusted him and I knew that he loved me and wanted to only be with me.

 

I would think of it this way: he actually did invite you to come AND pay for your flight! That's pretty nice of him. If he planned to have an alcohol induced sex-filled vacation he would not ask you to come at all! He'd just go and tell you that you had to deal with it.

 

The more important question is: do you trust him? do you believe that even if he was all liquored up that he wouldn't cheat on you even if a girl came onto him?

[linwood]

Who goes to Vegas .... ALONE?

 

That sounds weird to me.

[2sunny]

he won't be alone.

[Pink Cupcakes]

I don't like how he states "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" as if he has an excuse to cheat just because he's in Vegas. That really isn't true if he brings home an STD. News flash, condoms don't prevent all STDs. I would pack your stuff and leave before he gets back from his trip.

[Lauriebell82]

Who goes to Vegas .... ALONE?

 

That sounds weird to me.

 

Yeah, I caught that too. I guess you could go to Vegas alone but I don't think it would be as much fun.

[Rollercoasterr]

I mean, it's VEGAS. It's called Sin City for a reason. No good will come of him going alone, and when he says "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" you can bet he's up to no good.

 

I just can't understand why ANYONE would want to go to Vegas alone.

[Ronni_W]

...so here i am , insecure

...Any suggestions please ???

I have a suggestion...but you ain't gonna like it: Regardless of how this whole Vegas thing pans out, work on eliminating your insecurities.

 

He has offered to pay for your flight there, so it's not like he's saying, "NO you can't go because I've got these major plans to get drunk and have sex with all types of Vegas broads."

 

And he booked the trip when you guys were broken up.

 

Take it all into account. Love is precious. If you've got it, don't eff it all up just because you're afraid of facing your insecurities. That's not your guy's fault. Rather, find the courage to overcome whatever are the earlier experiences that are causing your insecurities -- and live a long and happy life with your guy. Yes?

[Tropic]

So strange him going alone to Las Vegas.

 

Like some posters said, I see it as a big red flag him saying "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas", specially knowing that he loves to party and loves sex.

 

Even if he offered to pay for your ticket, maybe he knew you would decline as you don't have spending money. . . just some food for thought

[Ronni_W]

So strange him going alone to Las Vegas.

I wouldn't think to take that literally -- I suspect he'll have at least one buddy going with him to celebrate his 40th!

 

Yes, of course it's possible that he guessed/assumed/knew that BradyBunch did not have funds for 'spending money' at the time he made the offer to buy her ticket. But. She has had whatever time to make that happen for herself, if she really wanted to -- whether take a 2nd or 3rd job, or borrow from dad or grandma, or whatever was necessary. He DID give her *some* opportunity to do more than just hide behind her "insecurities".

 

It's also information for HIM, if she chose/chooses not to at least try to save or get the funds together in some other way. (Why wouldn't she have done her best and utmost?)

[Angel1111]

I have a suggestion...but you ain't gonna like it: Regardless of how this whole Vegas thing pans out, work on eliminating your insecurities.

 

He has offered to pay for your flight there, so it's not like he's saying, "NO you can't go because I've got these major plans to get drunk and have sex with all types of Vegas broads."

 

And he booked the trip when you guys were broken up.

 

Take it all into account. Love is precious. If you've got it, don't eff it all up just because you're afraid of facing your insecurities. That's not your guy's fault. Rather, find the courage to overcome whatever are the earlier experiences that are causing your insecurities -- and live a long and happy life with your guy. Yes?

 

I agree with this. I don't really understand why you're not going. And if you don't go, he did invite you. I do think it's odd that you feel like you're going to have that many expenses. Most boyfriends would offer to pay for meals or whatever. I don't get what all the expense would be. If you can't afford to gamble, then find something else to do, or watch him gamble and root for him. Or you could go shopping while he's doing that. Even if you don't buy anything, the shops are awesome.

[Jersey Shortie]

Red Flag 1. Going to Vegas alone

Red Flag 2. Says "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas"

Red Flag 3. Love to party and drink.

 

 

Men who love to party and drink don't love to party and drink alone. It sort of defeats the purpose of partying and drinking.