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My ex left me like 2 months ago after 3 years, since then ive just been a complete mess. I try and try and try to just move on but then i just get the "what if" thoughts. I had gone 15 days without talking to her, then something came up and i had to talk to her now ever since that time i just ring her every day! What the hell has gotten in to me, i guess its just so hard for me to accept that shes moving on so happily..... i feel so heartbroken. I said to her "lets be friends" and she was alright with that but i just know she means to say certain things to either piss me off.... or to just get me real jealous. I cant deal with this s**t...... i know it brings me more pain by talking to her.... ...... Plus, she never rings me, its always me ringing her, that hurts sooo much more.....but i just cant stop talking to her, i had my life planned out... to be with her forever, for that to just get taken away from me...... its like life isnt worth living..... help me someone :( i feel so down :(

 

Btw i rang her as soon as i woke up today, she said she was busy, and i told her to let me know when she would be free:(

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I ve been there , done that, DO NOT ask her to be friends, she will see that you are desperate, and this is the worst thing to do.Just go NC , do not contact her, let her come to you instead, so you can regain your dignity.Obviously she has moved on , so the best thing you can do , is to move on.I know its easier said than done.

Go NC, its the best thing to do for yourself

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...... Plus, she never rings me, its always me ringing her, that hurts sooo much more.....but i just cant stop talking to her, i had my life planned out... to be with her forever, for that to just get taken away from me...... its like life isnt worth living..... help me someone :( i feel so down :(

 

Btw i rang her as soon as i woke up today, she said she was busy, and i told her to let me know when she would be free:(

 

Same here, I'm always contacting him. He ONLY replys or contacts me to talk about getting my stuff from the apartment. Which I am doing tomorrow =(

 

And I texted him as soon as I woke up today too. Surprsingly he replied.

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Same here, I'm always contacting him. He ONLY replys or contacts me to talk about getting my stuff from the apartment. Which I am doing tomorrow =(

 

And I texted him as soon as I woke up today too. Surprsingly he replied.

mmmm.... what i dont understand is why cant a person who really has moved on from you just say the f***n words clear..... why cant she say to me there's no chance ever for us being together..... i just think about how much i used to do for her and think of how dumb i was for doing that...... Now she's just like a psycho, when i ask her why she left me, she brings up things from like 2 years ago..... how can you leave someone for things they did 2 years ago???!!!!!

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I know NC makes you seem less desperate, but I don't get it. The other person KNOWS that the dumpee feels like total BS. Maybe he/she just wants answers. I don't know about NC. As long as you aren't begging him/her to take you back or tricking yourself into believing he/she will return, I say go for it. If you don't feel like crap after talking to him/her, do whatever you want. However, this chick has made it clear she is not interested in you, whatsoever. I do agree with the NC stuff here. Just let her go and find a new hobby. You are old news to her.

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mmmm.... what i dont understand is why cant a person who really has moved on from you just say the f***n words clear..... why cant she say to me there's no chance ever for us being together..... i just think about how much i used to do for her and think of how dumb i was for doing that...... Now she's just like a psycho, when i ask her why she left me, she brings up things from like 2 years ago..... how can you leave someone for things they did 2 years ago???!!!!!

 

Well, my ex is very clear that we are over. It still doesn't stop me from wanting to talk to him. It still feels like he is my bf, cuz just ONE day we break up and i'm supposed to be like 'oh you're not mine anymore'. I'm ALMOST tempted to drive to the apartment and see if he's there (...it's about 45 mins away)...but I am sure nothing good will happen. I so badly want to see him.

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mmmm.... what i dont understand is why cant a person who really has moved on from you just say the f***n words clear..... why cant she say to me there's no chance ever for us being together..... i just think about how much i used to do for her and think of how dumb i was for doing that...... Now she's just like a psycho, when i ask her why she left me, she brings up things from like 2 years ago..... how can you leave someone for things they did 2 years ago???!!!!!

 

Ussy it is over, in your heart you know it is. It is not about neeing her to say it any different or gving you another way to confirm it.

 

In fact it is kind of her NOT to say the will ever be a chance for you two to be together. Your having a hard time letting go now, just think if she gave you a morsel of hope, how hard you be holding on.

 

Your not dumb for doing the kind things you did. Those are testament on how kind and deeply your love was, not that happen after those act changes what they are, kind and deeply loving acts. They refect you worth not hers.

 

Likely just as your emotions are having a diffiuct time understand the logic that it is over, she do is having a difficult communication why her emotions has change. The more you push for understanding the more you reinforce her decision, and reminds her of reasons why she wanted to leave.

 

It is hard but it time to focus on yourself, put yourself and your healing first. It is not about her it is about you and getting stronger.

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Well i guess this really is the end.... as i said earlier, she said to me in the morning that she would let me know when she was free so we could talk....... it came to 10 at night, and i still had no call or text. Then, i ring her and ask her how come she didn't contact me and she said "I was busy" Yeah like you was busy the whole f****ng day!!!

 

Then I tried to talk nicely, but she still stuck to being a stubborn b***h and giving me 1 word replies. Then out of the blue, she cut me off. I rang back a few times but she wouldn't answer. Like on the 4th time she answered and said "I dont know what happened" obvious lies! Then i heard her mum in the background say "why are you being so worried for, if you dont want to talk to him just say it" and then i asked her "is what your mum saying true?" then again... out of the blue she cut it off. I tried ringing her back, but her cell phone was turned off.

 

So i rang her mum, and her mum said "i got her phone off her and turned it off" i asked why and she goes "because you keep ringing! Ill tell you what, ill make it final today......" Then she goes to my ex "What do you really want to do" and my ex goes "Ive told him that so many times, he just wont stop calling 24/7" That just made me feel like a total loser.... i just agreed then and said bye. I feel so down.... the girl of my dreams is gone. Its so hard accepting that someones love for you had died.... too hard

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I know how you feel. I'm going through the same thing. I don't want to give any wrong advices but stay strong...

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