GrayTree Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 So Ive initiated a no contact him first thing...and its been a month without contact. My question is... I told him "Id wait for him forever because I loved him...." was that a mistake to say? Because Ive read you have to be hard to get to spark their interest again...and how could I ever take that statement back?
BigTenInchRecord Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 It's hard to say. But I don't think so...if he wanted to get back together I would hope it would be because he really loves you, not just because he thinks your over him, you know? If he wants to give it an honest try then I don't think saying that would really matter too much. Then again if he's the type of guy who wants what he can't have and he thinks your still in love with him, he might be inclined to stay away. But regardless of what he thinks, you just gotta start slowly healing, and eventually you WILL be over him for real. And ironically, that's your best chance for a reconciliation. I'm sure you've read about how exes just seem to know somehow when your over them for real, and that's when they re-emerge. But usually by that time, you don't want them back! F#cked up, aint it? I know getting over them seems counter-productive if you want them back, but in reality it's your best bet.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 I said that to someone who dumped me and left town this past summer. Still haven't heard from him to this day, seven months later. Am I waiting for him? Hell no. It takes a while, but eventually you reach a point where you ask yourself 'what in the heck am I doing?!' and you shake it off, put your heart back in order and move on. Its only been a month, and your heart is still lying to you and telling you under the pretense of false hope that a man who would go a month without saying a single word to you or even trying to talk to you in some way, shape or form is somehow ok, that there is something there to hold on to. A man who wants to be with you badly enough will ignore the NC and stop at nothing to have you back in his life. A man who doesn't just walks away and leaves you in silence. Being hard or not is no longer an issue. He won't care either way. What do you do? You walk away and don't look back. Give it some more time. It was a few months before I could do that myself.
2sunny Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 big mistake... time waits for no one. don't take any one day for granted - it may be the only one you get. stop waiting for him - if he loved you he would swim through shark infested waters to be with you. HE doesn't care - so move forward... and do it without him. go be happy!
threebyfate Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 I said that to someone who dumped me and left town this past summer. Still haven't heard from him to this day, seven months later. Am I waiting for him? Hell no. It takes a while, but eventually you reach a point where you ask yourself 'what in the heck am I doing?!' and you shake it off, put your heart back in order and move on. Its only been a month, and your heart is still lying to you and telling you under the pretense of false hope that a man who would go a month without saying a single word to you or even trying to talk to you in some way, shape or form is somehow ok, that there is something there to hold on to. A man who wants to be with you badly enough will ignore the NC and stop at nothing to have you back in his life. A man who doesn't just walks away and leaves you in silence. Being hard or not is no longer an issue. He won't care either way. What do you do? You walk away and don't look back. Give it some more time. It was a few months before I could do that myself.GrayTree, listen to this! It's everything, in a nutshell!
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