lvixen Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Thanks in advance to everyone that reads this If you check my previous posts I made one about 5 months ago about a failed move to be with my ex who lived 2500 miles from me. I was severely stressed moving in with him being so far away from home and being unemployed. When I left he said he wanted to work things out and for me to come back. Two months later he broke up with me saying he expected me to change when I got home but I never did. He said he still wanted to be friends and I agreed. Three weeks later he removed me from his facebook. It hurt but I didn't say anything about it because I figured it was a good move for me too. Another three weeks later he re-adds me and apologizes. It's been hell for me since then. He is constantly trying to make me jealous by saying he thinks this girl is hot, this one is beautiful, this one has big breasts, etc,. He emailed me saying he found a long lost friend of his, she is so sucessful and beautiful and tells me he hopes some of it rubs off on me (I'm unemployed going to school). He says shes a good catch and he wants to try it out with her. I put on my facebook that I've been losing weight so he messages me asking me for pictures of my new body and sends me some pictures of myself. That's when my hopes get up and I start to think maybe we have a chance at a second shot. Well yesterday I admit to him I still have feelings for him and he says he does for me too but we have too many differences to reconcile. I ask him what he means and he says I was selfish, it was all my fault, I put him in a financial hole when I moved in with him (he didn't spend a dime on me) and that he doesn't like my weight problem. All I ever did was love him and I sacrificed everything to move to be with him so I don't accept a word of it. He says he "forgives" me and that I'm a best friend to him now so he hopes he doesn't lose me. So it's 3 months after the breakup and I feel the same way I did day one. I should've did no contact from the beginning. Now I don't even know where to start or what to do. It's SO hard to not talk to him, I'm making myself constantly available and its killing me. I cry almost everytime we talk. He's no good for me and I know it but I still want him back. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Full Moon Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Oh hunny, you have to stop communicating with him. How about you delete him from your FB this time and don't dare re-add him afterwards. He likes the fact he can still stir up your emotions and he is throwing these girls in your face just to get a certain reaction out of you. Stop allowing this to happen. You can get your power back by no longer contacting him or responding to him when he contacts you. You can do this. Just take it one day at a time. Remaining in contact with him--with the way things are now--will hurt more than ceasing all contact. You already see how much it hurts instead of helps. Also, a friendship with him is impossible atm b/c you aren't over your romantic feelings for him. However, he isn't worthy of your friendship anyway. You don't have to put up with his nonsense and this is not your fault. You can and will get past this. Begin NC today, begin healing. Take care.
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