Orchid8 Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Do you think it's strange? He said they broke up on good terms over 6 months ago and it wouldn't be weird. She's a bartender and he said we wouldn't see her at all if we are in the dining area. It's an upscale seafood restaurant, very swanky where the bar is actually in another room. I don't know, I just think it's strange that he would want to show up with a date to his ex's work.. Kinda feel like he's rubbing it in her face a little? Personally, I would never want to show up with a date to anywhere I know my ex would be, especially if he works there. What does everyone think? Should I just go with the flow or recommend going somewhere else?
nddb Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 He's using you to make her jealous. And he only does that if he still has feelings and still wants a reaction from her. I'm of the school that once a relationship is over, you bury it with a shovel, and you bury the shovel too. No contact, no facebook, no email, no nothing. He's going out of his way to be seen by her again--with another girl. Troubling.
Green Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 If thats you in the avatar... then yeah he is trying to rub it in. "Look who I'm dating." If he was smooth, he wouldn't set up such an awkward date. If the place really is that great why not hide the fact his ex-gf works there. Seriously just knowing she is around some where ready to pop out is enough to give any one indigestion.
alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 What does everyone think? Should I just go with the flow or recommend going somewhere else? he should have just taken you there without mentioning that his ex works there. he would have still made the ex jelous without ruffling your feathers. this guy is a bOOb
tinktronik Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 He's using you to make her jealous. And he only does that if he still has feelings and still wants a reaction from her. I'm of the school that once a relationship is over, you bury it with a shovel, and you bury the shovel too. No contact, no facebook, no email, no nothing. He's going out of his way to be seen by her again--with another girl. Troubling. I agree. I would make the 1st date the last one based on this info.
alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 I would make the 1st date the last one based on this info. unless he takes her to an even swankier joint which employs no ex-lovers
tinktronik Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 unless he takes her to an even swankier joint which employs no ex-lovers You think? Even the process of planning a date at a place where an ex works is so jack@@@ that I would be turned off and cancel it out.
nddb Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 You think? Even the process of planning a date at a place where an ex works is so jack@@@ that I would be turned off and cancel it out. Okay, swankier joint and five-star hotel? in a limo?
tinktronik Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Okay, swankier joint and five-star hotel? in a limo? throw in a new Dior dress and you've got yourself a deal!
nddb Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 throw in a new Dior dress and you've got yourself a deal! I grew up in the South. I was just thinking like a place with table-cloth and stuff and a room without bars on windows? I'll borrow uncle Jed's truck.
donnamaybe Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Man, you guys are so quick to jump all over this poor dude! I tend to have "favorite restaurants," and I would hate to never get to go to one with a date again simply because an ex worked there. At least he mentioned it in case they talk and it comes up. I would just go and see how he treats the situation. If they parted on good terms, like he says, I doubt he's taking you there to make some kind of point. If he is, you'll be able to tell.
alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 You think? Even the process of planning a date at a place where an ex works is so jack@@@ that I would be turned off and cancel it out. his ex must have dumped his sorry ass and hes still in with her
Crazy Magnet Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 That's so weird. I'd suggest another place, then would probably not answer the phone anymore. He seems like drama waiting to happen.
nddb Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 his ex must have dumped his sorry ass and hes still in with her Ya think? He's probably waiting for the chance to go ..."nah nah, I got a real non-inflatable girl...look at me...all bouncing back and sh$t. You are a still a bartender and I'm rubbing it in your face and all your co-workers' face. Is my chick HOT or what?"
Author Orchid8 Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 Man, you guys are so quick to jump all over this poor dude! I tend to have "favorite restaurants," and I would hate to never get to go to one with a date again simply because an ex worked there. At least he mentioned it in case they talk and it comes up. I would just go and see how he treats the situation. If they parted on good terms, like he says, I doubt he's taking you there to make some kind of point. If he is, you'll be able to tell. I think you're right. I'll go along with the date and see how it goes. I have to admit, I am a little turned off that he would suggest going here. Escpecially since it is only our second date. If we were seeing eachother a little longer, I wouldn't mind it so much since it is one of my favorite restaurants.
Author Orchid8 Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 he should have just taken you there without mentioning that his ex works there. he would have still made the ex jelous without ruffling your feathers. this guy is a bOOb Agreed! I'm not so sure I want to go on this date now....
tinktronik Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Agreed! I'm not so sure I want to go on this date now.... exactly........
DustySaltus Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Orchid there's got to be a few Red Lobster's in the area he can take you to.
alphamale Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 if a girl was taking me out to a place where her ex worked i'd be like no way
D-Lish Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 That's soooo not okay! I think it's high time this guy found a new favorite restaurant! I woud assume he's not over this girl.
Author Orchid8 Posted February 27, 2010 Author Posted February 27, 2010 if a girl was taking me out to a place where her ex worked i'd be like no way REALLY?? You would say no? lol
2sunny Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 you're in so cal and he has to choose THIS restaurant? no way! his agenda is all about making her jealous. find a guy that will be nice just to be nice - without an agenda - especially one that looks like that. tell him no way - not that restaurant. if he insists, tell him you won't see him anymore.
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