alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Say you've gone out with someone 5 or 6 times and never slept together. After said period of time you decide you don't want to see that person again for whatever reason(s). Is it acceptable to let them know digitally (email/text) that you don't want to date any more?? Or do you need to call them or talk with them face-to-face?
TouchedByViolet Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 5 or 6 times is a lot in my book. I would say you owe the person a phone call. You don't have to be jerk (which i feel texting/emailing will make you look like), especially if you still want to remain friends. Don't make the person feel crappy, just say something like I don't feel the chemistry.
Author alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 call or face to face 5 or 6 times is a lot in my book. I would say you owe the person a phone call. i wouldn't expect a call or face-to-face in a casual dating scenario. an email or text would suffice as long as it got the point across
skydiveaddict Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 i wouldn't expect a call or face-to-face in a casual dating scenario. an email or text would suffice as long as it got the point across Still, that's just you. Call or face to face
Author alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 Call or face to face i sort of reserve that if you've slept together
skydiveaddict Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 i sort of reserve that if you've slept together No, you need to call, or face to face. The text thing could be perceived as cowardice by her.
Author alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 The text thing could be perceived as cowardice by her. probably, but i got the message across with the least amount of grief for me. the end result is the same
Tony T Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Yes, I started a thread about this yesterday and quite a discussion ensued. Quite surprised to see this one here so soon.
carhill Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Alpha, it's acceptable to you, since you recently made a reasoned decision to do it. As long as you own the consequences and feel it is a healthy path for you, that's all that matters. You'll never see these women again. I would caution you to beware of the Barbie Hotline though
Art_Critic Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 This is only my opinion... I think if the dating started out with emailing/texting then it is okay.. if not preferred.. Of course I'm not talking about a relationship.. any relationship should be done face to face.. If the primary mode of communicating was thru texting then a DD is also okay.. If most of the communication happened on the phone rather than thru the faceless text then someone should use the phone to call it off at the very least.. and if anytime has passed.. like your were BF-GF then the only way should be face to face. Alpha.. I really don't see as what you did was all that bad.. was it a bit cold.. sure.. because it seems she was starting to enjoy your company.. You can't make everybody happy all the time.. and nobody can be made happy by telling them your are calling it off.. Rejection is Rejection.. period.. the only thinng that can be done is softening that rejection.. Some choose not to..
laRubiaBonita Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 a face-to-face would be more respectable alpha.... especially after 5-6 dates. plus i tend to only expect DD's from teeny bopper HS kids or people that do not have the emotional maturity to end a relationship in person.
SarahRose Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Am I the only one who is fed up with passive cowardly people?
Author alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 If the primary mode of communicating was thru texting then a DD is also okay.. since i was on the fence most of the time we texted back and forth mostly. i called her one per week. she even commented as to why i called her so few times...
BB07 Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 At the very least a call, preferably face to face.
Author alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 a face-to-face would be more respectable alpha.... especially after 5-6 dates. we weren't a couple, there was no sex, there was no talk of a future. it was just a casual dating situation
annxxdisaster Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 granted, my relationship was different than yours...the fact that he wasn't man enough to face me for whatever reasons when he wanted to break up with me, made me feel really worthless and disrespected. like the time we spent together was a huge joke, especially since he wasn't able to man up and drop me in a more humane and respectable manner.you can get the job done either way, but in person is the way to do it.
Author alphamale Posted February 27, 2010 Author Posted February 27, 2010 like the time we spent together was a huge joke, and how long did u spend together?
annxxdisaster Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 4 months dating, knew each other for 7 months.
Ingenue Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Being on the end of a DD, I'd say call or face to face. It's just a more respectful way of ending a relationship, no matter how casual it is. Sometimes a little respect goes a long way. I went out with a guy for about 3 dates. I broke up with him face-to-face, as awkward as it was. We're now friends and I'm glad that I tried to treat him with as much respect as possible.
Author alphamale Posted February 27, 2010 Author Posted February 27, 2010 4 months dating, knew each other for 7 months. yes i agree that a DD would be uncalled for in that situation
laRubiaBonita Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 humane and respectable manner.you can get the job done either way, but in person is the way to do it. i agree kinda..... it's almost like you are saying i wasted my time going on dates with you and spending my personal time doing that- so all i am NOT willing to waste anymore Real Time, probably less than a dollar to tell you i am not that into you.
Star Gazer Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Am I the only one who is fed up with passive cowardly people? You're not alone. After 5-6 dates one deserves at least a phone call.
Author alphamale Posted February 27, 2010 Author Posted February 27, 2010 After 5-6 dates one deserves at least a phone call. if there was sex then yes. if no nookie then no
myhearthurtsbadly Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Im sorry i had to reply to this. Alpha male what on earth makes you think sex is the only measure of a connection or feelings between two people? Just because you havent screwed her doesnt mean she hasnt enjoyed you in her life. For heavens sake grow up, get some moral fibre, treat people how you would like to be treated, pay the bus fare to go and see her and tell her how it is. I hate people who think its ok to treat others, especially in matters of a relationship with disrespect. MAN UP.
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