MalachiX Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Ok, I started dating this girl about a week and a half ago after being set up by mutual friends (older friends who thought we'd make a cute couple). I just turned 26 and she's 21 with a five month old girl. Thus far, things have been going well. I'm not madly in love with this girl but we have fun together and it's enjoyable. The thing is, I sense we're approaching more serious territory. I've tried to indicate to her before that I'm not the kind of guy she can count on for stability and she knows that I'm planning on moving to a different city five hours away in the next couple of months. Of course, I'm certainly don't have the desire to be a surrogate father to her child. I don't mind that her little girl comes first in the realtionship since that's the way it should be and I don't have a lot of free time anyway. Last night however, she mentioned that she'd like me to drop by some time when her daughter was awake "if wanted." So, now I'm a tad nervous. I guess I thought it would be possible just to have a casual relationship with this girl. Yes, I know that having a child changes ones priorities but I've also been told by a lot of mothers and sometimes they just want to be treated as a normal girl and don't like the desperate stereotype. So, I guess I need to figure out a way to broach the subject again. It's also important since we're getting a bit heavier when we're alone and I think it's best to make sure we're on the same page before we have sex. What's the nicest way to say that I like this girl, enjoy spending time with her, but can't commit to anything long-term and certainly am not in a position to play daddy?
boogieboy Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Youve already told her that you arent going to be around for long. So just tell her again the exact same way you did last time. She is hoping that you stay with her, so you have o re-iterate what you said last time, thats it. And tell her you'll go over there once the kid is asleep.
Author MalachiX Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 I like kids. I just don't want to be anyone's daddy.
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