Ribber Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 I found out last week that my finance and the mother of my unborn child cheated on me 10 months ago. She said she needed a weekend with her friends so being a good boyfriend I let her have it. Months and months later I find out from her ex boyfriend that they hooked up over that weekend. I knew something was up when I came to take her to breakfast and at 8am 2 guys were dropping her off. At this point she had already told me she was in bed at home by 1am. The lie she said to explain this action was so bad I could not even understand why she would even had said it. But i Asked her to tell me the truth and she stuck with her story so I believed her because I trusted her. So now 10 months later I find out she cheated on me then. I knew as soon as the ex boyfriend contacted me about feeling guilty about something what it was.. I asked my finance one more time, (I would have much rather hear it from her) She lied about it again. So i found out from him what happened.. After a long talk. She said she did not remember what happened that she was drunk and does not remember. So bottom line she planed a weekend with an ex boyfriend cheated on me and seem to have zero guilt about it until she got caught. Since then we have gotten engaged and recently she has gotten preggo . How can i recover from this. She is not the girl I thought she was. I want to stay with her because we have a baby on the way.. every time i look at her all i see is a cheater and a lier. I dream about her cheating on my every night.. to the point i can not sleep but an hour or 2 every night. This has gone on for more than a week now.. Please help Thank You
troggleputty Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Two guys? Sounds like she was spit roasted dude. Sorry. You have to get rid of her. Oh and by the way if she claims the child is yours, looking for child support or your name on the birth certificate, you must insist on a DNA test. It actually sounds like she's been screwing around on you for some time; then when she got pregnant by one of these other guys needed to get married to you so the other guy's baby would have a father. Don't even think about reconciling with this cheating beotch.
Bryanp Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 I agree with the above poster. Get a DNA test. Why would you marry a woman who shows so little respect for you? Not only does she cheat on you but continues to lie to you and put your health at risk for STD's. You would have to be absolutely out of your mind to marry her. She is liar and she is only sorry she got caught. It is clear she has no respect for you. If you do not respect yourself then who will? Again you would be a fool to marry her and I think you know this. Call the engagement off and get a DNA test on the child.
Author Ribber Posted February 27, 2010 Author Posted February 27, 2010 I am 32 And I will say this. She has changed and grown as a person a great deal over the last 10 months. That is why this is a hard choice. She has become the kind of girl that a guy can marry since then. The hardest thing about it is not even the cheating. Its the lying I could handle the truth heal from it even, but lies I just dont understand. I can not lie to the person i love. Its not in me. I am all kind of confused.
mark982 Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 of course she's a changed woman, she thinks she's found someone dumb (sorry) enough to put their name on the birth cert. don't trust this woman what so ever.
jnj express Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Do not marry this girl----she has straight out lied to you for months, gets drunk, and blames the alcohol for her cheating-----she has very little desirable character, and believe me she will do it again. She became better in your eyes cuz she knew she cheated, and was doing everything she could to keep you quiet and make your suspicions go away. Child or no child do not marry her----let the child come into the world in split homes, better off, than the tension filled unhappiness that it will face due to what she has done to you. She knew what she was doing every step of the way, she wanted to be with the other guy---planned it, manipulated you with lies, decieved you, and made the sex happen----IS THIS THE PERSON YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH ----what kind of love does she have for you----I think her kind of love for you is spelled---disrespect.
lkjh Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Do not marry her, people don't change in 10 months. She probably cheated more than once and you need to get a DNA test
lostsunsets Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Don't marry her. She has only proven herself to be a liar. You say she has grown in the last ten months. Apparently she has only grown into a bigger liar. You will be a fool to marry an unrepentant cheater.
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