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sweetblubrry Established Member

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Well I had been dating this guy the last month and a half. We have a lot of interests and he was so incredibly sweet! I spent a few nights over at his place and we probably saw each other 3 to 4xs a week. I started noticing he was a lil distant certain weeks but he bounced back. He met my family and then I met his! Things really seemed like they were progressing and then he got real distant before V day. I ended up inviting him to my concert, I don't even know if we would have seen each other that day if I didn't do that. He was still distant after that so I talked with him last week on wednesday and asked him what's up (I think I have a right to ask). He said that he felt like something was missing but didn't know what it was. Umm ook....definitely seemed like there wasn't anything missing. If anything communication was. Wed go on dates but he would barely talk to me in between besides the first 3 weeks.I think he is still scarred from his past with being engaged and it not working. Anyway, we talked casually on thursday and he dropped off the face of the earth. Not one word since them. I see him online on fb and we always used to talk on there. He said he still wanted to see me and that he really likes hanging out with me ( no we didn't sleep together). Right now I am PISSED!! Should I defriend him from fb?? I was real upset before but now I am just angry. Guys are such cowards.

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If he is still scarred from his past relationship, then he should definitely sort that out first without hanging out with you. His past relationship should not affect the way he is with you. Also, communication is really important so if there is an issue, the both of you should be able to talk about it. If he says something is missing but still wants to see you, then that's pretty contradictory. From my experience, when some guys say something is missing it means they do not feel the chemistry or it is because they haven't been receiving sex yet. There is really no point saying "something" is missing because it leaves you confused, even more so when he says he still wants to see you. He should figure out exactly what is going on and if he is 100% with you and into you.

 

It seems as though you have been initiating quite a bit. I would say maybe give yourself some space and take some time to put things in perspective about how you feel about him. It gives him a chance to think about you too and, if he really wants to be with you, he will come to you. That's my opinion.

BobSacamento Established Member

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If the guy has been out with you several times and you haven't slept together and he tells you "something is missing" then I think you have your answer right there.

Alexz Established Member

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Please, for freak's sake, don't start this superficial FaceBook drama. If you really want to sort this out, tell him that he should either explain to you what's wrong since you seem confused about your relationship, or you should break it off because he doesn't seem interested anymore. It's as simple as that really. :mad:

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You are doing this to yourself. Revisit your past thread and you'll see that you were told that he's not interested romantically. You've been chasing him from the get go. Leave him alone. Have some self respect.

 

I don't mean to sound harsh, but sheesh! *shakes* OP... guys get turned off when you hunt 'em down like that. Plus doing this, leaves you wondering if he's into you...

tkgirl Established Member

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don't use facebook to "defriend" him... it's lame. You would just be waiting for a reaction from him afterwards and he may not be into games like that... you shouldn't be either.

"defriend" him in your mind.... go about your life and find someone else who is more into you because this guy ain't it...

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He wasnt into you. Thats the only way he could dissappear form the face of the earth. He probably found someone else anyway. Go ahead and delete him from FB, consider him out of your life for good. You dont want someone back wasnt as into you as you were into him.

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sweetblubrry Established Member

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Ok um.... i never said I didn't want to do anything. He just never iniated and in FACT he stopped himself from getting too excited. I hate when people sit there and assume its cause he's not getting any. THAT IS NOT THE CASE IN THIS IF HE WANTED IT HE WOULD HAVE TRIED!

 

I am simply ASKING if I should defriend him. Whats with the post about fb drama or a game? How is defriending someone freaking drama?

 

Seriously some people are way overreacting. I am pissed at him. I don't know what he's thinking and I don't know why he's not talking to me but it PISSES ME OFF!! Does it make me look bad if I defriend him, will he not care, or will he be upset? I have no idea!! BECAUSE I DONT KNOW WHAT HES THINKING!! WHAT WOULD YOU DO??

 

He doesn't talk to me, I assume is over! I already wentback on match.com. I don't take NO BS!

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Ok um.... i never said I didn't want to do anything. He just never iniated and in FACT he stopped himself from getting too excited. I hate when people sit there and assume its cause he's not getting any. THAT IS NOT THE CASE IN THIS IF HE WANTED IT HE WOULD HAVE TRIED!

 

I am simply ASKING if I should defriend him. Whats with the post about fb drama or a game? How is defriending someone freaking drama?

 

Seriously some people are way overreacting. I am pissed at him. I don't know what he's thinking and I don't know why he's not talking to me but it PISSES ME OFF!! ?? Does it make me look bad if I defriend him, will he not care, or will he be upset? I have no idea!! BECAUSE I DONT KNOW WHAT HES THINKING!! WHAT WOULD YOU DO

 

He doesn't talk to me, I assume is over! I already wentback on match.com. I don't take NO BS!

 

umm.. because you're kind of a nut job? just a guess...

 

anyho, go ahead and defriend him then... if that will make you feel better... geez!

 

talk about over-reacting... but whatever... you go girl! :lmao:

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