mortensorchid Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 I'm thinking a bit tonight, I am a tad confused. Let me explain ... About seven weeks ago I met this man online. We hit it off very well, I've been seeing him nearly every weekend. With the exception of two weekends in a row where he had to cancel due to some family things, we have seen each other every weekend. We are not talking on the phone too often, usually just once a week to set up the Saturday night date. I only get another call from him if he has to reschedule. They say that if someone doesn't want to see you or get you a romantic gift for Valentine's Day that they are "just not that into you". I was unable to see him on that day because me and several friends were shooting a movie, he asked to see me later that day but the project went into the wee hours and I didn't see him that night. We did see each other last weekend, it was actually a big step as I brought him to meet my friends at a big party. To my delight he liked them and blended in! There hasn't been any intimacy, FYI, as of yet, partially due to a terrible cold I caught. I sent him a text earlier tonight after not hearing from him since last Saturday, and haven't heard from him as of yet. Are we an "item"? I have no problem with this if we are, but I wonder if he considers this "going steady".
aerogurl87 Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 ^^^ I agree. If you want a clear answer anyway, you should ask him what you two are.
spinster Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Seems way too early from what you have written here. Take it easy.
ViciousViolet Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Usually there is a 'talk' of some sort before getting exclusive with someone. Until then, there's no telling.
conehead Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 If you haven't heard from him since last Saturday, I think you have a bigger problem than just wondering whether you are going steady. I'm wonder whether he still wants to see you anymore.
ViciousViolet Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Okay, after reading it again, it does seem like he might not be interested anymore. Now of course I could be wrong, but if he is not returning your text after a week of not seeing/talking to you, then that's a sign.
D-Lish Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 If you have to ask, then you're not. Exactly. If it's been 5 days and he hasn't contacted you- it's not very serious.
conehead Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Okay, after reading it again, it does seem like he might not be interested anymore. Now of course I could be wrong, but if he is not returning your text after a week of not seeing/talking to you, then that's a sign. Yup. OP - also, just a personal tip that I realized have worked for myself. Instead of thinking whether HE likes you, whether HE likes your friends or whether HE wants to go steady, why don't you turn it around and instead think do YOU like him, do YOUR friends like him, and do YOU think he's worth going steady with, esp since he hasn't contacted you since Sat nor returned your text? Just by thinking this way, you will be surprised how it changes your mindset and will make the guy chase YOU instead of the other way around.
Author mortensorchid Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 I've been struggling with this for a while, Conehead, but you are right. I guess whatever will be will be. I'll just let it stand and see if he contacts me again.
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