Biccaroo Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Hi, I recently got dumped by my gf of 5 months. She has gone back to her ex and left me with a broken heart. She was my first love and I want her back. However, 7 weeks after the break-up I now realise I've done everything I should've have to give us a chance of reconciliation. I was tearful and pretty much begged her back during the 3 days following the break-up. I sent her a couple of text messages outlining my love for her and I've also emailed her telling her how much of a cow she's been for doing this to me and to leave me alone... Yes, an epic fail in NC. What I want to know is do I have any chance of papering over the cracks this process has formed? She owes me money which I've asked for numerous times but will probably never see. I last made contact with her on Monday and I've since decided that it's best I don't contact her again - at least for a few months. I want us to be friends but there's no way she can 'miss' me because we work in the same company, although in different buildings, and I see her every now and then. I just want to know if there is anyway back? And if there is, what should I do?
Iamthedouglas Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 there's nothing, sorry, it's over. I'm not gonna lie, sending her angry letters shows you are not stable. I don't mean that rudely, but if my girlfriend did that to me when we broke up, I'd stay far away. Sadly, I think it's time to move on. You may not be able to avoid her completely, but you're just going to have to pretend that girl at your company is a woman with the same name and face but is someone else. If you gave a chance for reconciliation and she doesn't take it, she doesn't want to be with you. Sorry to put it so bluntly, but sometimes we need that. Hope that helps. Good luck.
DustySaltus Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 When you say "any way back" are you talking about a reconciliation or friendship? If you are looking for a second chance a lot more than an apology is needed to make things work. Whatever problems led to your breakup need to be resolved on BOTH ends and you would BOTH need to make a huge effort to correct those problems. Otherwise they will repeat themselves. In time all things can be forgiven. I never got my engagement ring back and it still angers me at times. However in time, I've learned that it was a small price to pay for my sanity.
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