SarahRose Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Why do you guys feel you need some gimmick or manipulation to get a woman? Is there something wrong with you than you can't attract a woman on your own merits? I don't know why guys post the least attractive photos on dating sites. Shirtless photos, close ups of tatoos, giant fish, you car, boat, photos with someone cut out, photos with another woman.
threebyfate Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 There's an entire forum full of women on LS, who are interested in previously committed men. The question is, are these the types of women you want in your life? If so, then go for it. Continue posting up pics like you're previously committed and see where it leads you.
Woggle Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Why do you guys feel you need some gimmick or manipulation to get a woman? Is there something wrong with you than you can't attract a woman on your own merits? I don't know why guys post the least attractive photos on dating sites. Shirtless photos, close ups of tatoos, giant fish, you car, boat, photos with someone cut out, photos with another woman. Because simply being yourself and trying to get a date is pretty much an exercise in futility for most men. Women want taken men so why shouldn't men use this angle?
homersheineken Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 I'm not that kind of woman. I ignore the profiles where a guy posts a picture of him and another woman. It's a turn off to me. That's been my experience too. I had a pic up with another very attractive girl and didn't get too far. I took it down and have had better success. Besides I want them to focus on me
homersheineken Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Most women do though. This guy has so much more success now than when he was just a normal guy trying to get a date that it isn't funny. Even when he doesn't wear his ring just the fact that he has other women after him makes a difference. I agree. When I had a SO, women were more into me than when I'm not.
Author betamanlet Posted February 27, 2010 Author Posted February 27, 2010 How am I being insecure? By letting the photo be taken? I didn't even realize it was being taken. My eyes aren't even open and I'm not even looking at the camera.. By posting it?
Pyro Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Because simply being yourself and trying to get a date is pretty much an exercise in futility for most men. Women want taken men so why shouldn't men use this angle? another reason why there are so many bitter men on here and in general. A guy puts on a pathetic act where he got his ideas from terrible pop culture and he is able to snag a bottom of the barrel or sub-par at the most kind of woman and then after the relationship develops the guy gets comfortable and his true self comes out and come to find that the two aren't compatible and the relationship ends, and of course to the bitter men out there they didn't do anything wrong to make the breakup occur.
Pyro Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Instead of using all that time and energy on putting on a fake persona just relax and be yourself. The only work associated with that is remaining patient while trying to meet the right type. Trust me when I say being yourself works. In seven days it will pay off for me.
SarahRose Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 another reason why there are so many bitter men on here and in general. A guy puts on a pathetic act where he got his ideas from terrible pop culture and he is able to snag a bottom of the barrel or sub-par at the most kind of woman and then after the relationship develops the guy gets comfortable and his true self comes out and come to find that the two aren't compatible and the relationship ends, and of course to the bitter men out there they didn't do anything wrong to make the breakup occur. Maybe it is because they themselves are bottom of the barrel sub-par men. There is something wrong with a man who uses gimmicks to get someone but he is too afraid to look in the mirror and figure out what it is and fix it.
Pyro Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 (edited) Maybe it is because they themselves are bottom of the barrel sub-par men. There is something wrong with a man who uses gimmicks to get someone but he is too afraid to look in the mirror and figure out what it is and fix it. definitely, especially if they have to resort to putting on a fake persona instead of being themselves. It is a bit extreme to label them as sub-par or bottom of a barrel, but rather just ignorant in regards to how to be confident with yourself. Edited February 27, 2010 by Pyro
Explorer Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 If you put up a pic say on a dating site, with you with a woman, you might get called a "pig" but there will still be more interest in you than if you put a pic of yourself alone. Why? Because you appear desired by a woman, hence other women will find it more desirable. Take this pic of me for example. I look pretty bad, my eyes are not even open, but I posted it on facebook, I got called all sorts of names, but then after that, interest in me.. http://www.imagedump.com/index.cgi?pick=get&tp=558593 I think if you were trying to date online, this wouldn't be a good idea. But facebook, or one of the other social sites, some women may take that as you're desired which would create value in their eyes.
Woggle Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Men have to put on a persona because women are attracted to a very small selection of men. Also most of these men are not bottom of the barrel. The worse a person a man is the more attractive to women he is.
Pyro Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Men have to put on a persona because women are attracted to a very small selection of men. Also most of these men are not bottom of the barrel. The worse a person a man is the more attractive to women he is. I am glad that is not true. If that were true I would still be a virgin and no confidence with women.
2sunny Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 when men lead with manipulation and/or a lie - they are out! but that's just the way i roll...
Woggle Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 when men lead with manipulation and/or a lie - they are out! but that's just the way i roll... When men lead with sincerity and love most women cast them out as well so what is the difference? I am truly starting to think that true love with women as a make believe fairy tale like Santa Claus.
2sunny Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Men have to put on a persona because women are attracted to a very small selection of men. Also most of these men are not bottom of the barrel. The worse a person a man is the more attractive to women he is. not true in my world Wog... healthy attracts healthy. healthy can spot unhealthy a mile away. there are so many things that come into play and are really obvious when a person is insecure and seeking inappropriate attention. same goes for manipulation, lies and cover up. once you get used to recognizing what it looks like on other people - it is no longer an attractive trait. i stay away from that with a vengeance. i actually think unhealthy attracts unhealthy. if you consider what this friend of yours is attracting by playing this game - i'm sure it isn't someone you would consider to be emotionally and mentally healthy and happy.
Woggle Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 [/b] if you consider what this friend of yours is attracting by playing this game - i'm sure it isn't someone you would consider to be emotionally and mentally healthy and happy. Show me a woman that is.
2sunny Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Show me a woman that is. ;) you're looking at her! :laugh:;)
SarahRose Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Show me a woman that is. Like she said, unhealthy attracts unhealthy
Woggle Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 ;) you're looking at her! :laugh:;) Correct me if I am wrong but didn't you leave a good man because you were bored? I apologize if I have you mistaken with somebody else but if so this just proves my point. Just look at how many women here who have good men in their lives are chasing and pining after married men who feed them empty lines. Just a look at this board shows that game playing works.
2sunny Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Correct me if I am wrong but didn't you leave a good man because you were bored? I apologize if I have you mistaken with somebody else but if so this just proves my point. Just look at how many women here who have good men in their lives are chasing and pining after married men who feed them empty lines. Just a look at this board shows that game playing works. that wasn't me, Wog. i left my 20 year marriage because he cheated. for me to be happy doesn't necessarily mean i HAVE to or NEED to have a man in my life - i am happy all on my own. what shows on this board is that people make poor choices - they make mistakes... they get caught up in things they regret or question what may be good for them. the fact that they come here to ask isn't a bad place to start. change is needed from that point. whether or not they take that path is another thing.
Author betamanlet Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Like she said, unhealthy attracts unhealthy But unhealthy men are different than unhealthy women. A unhealthy man here is someone who is low in confidence, but doesn't make poor decisions that could be catastrophic. You cannot compare men and women, as the female equilvalent of a beta male is actually quite opposite, and is hyper promiscuous, whereas a betamale is lucky to not die a virgin. The same traits in males and females leads to completely different results.
carhill Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Any dates Beta? Haven't been keeping up with your story of late. Snow must suck.... TBH, any time I find my boundaries slipping, I just come back to good ole LS to get a refresher course in why I need them. Hope it helps you. Stay off of Facebook
Author betamanlet Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Any dates Beta? Haven't been keeping up with your story of late. Snow must suck.... TBH, any time I find my boundaries slipping, I just come back to good ole LS to get a refresher course in why I need them. Hope it helps you. Stay off of Facebook Nah, work has been hectic recently, but I began a class recently, so I'm leaving the apartment. i actually tried to go out on friday night but felt sick as soon as I arrived at my friend's place and had to go home.
threebyfate Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Nah, work has been hectic recently, but I began a class recently, so I'm leaving the apartment. i actually tried to go out on friday night but felt sick as soon as I arrived at my friend's place and had to go home.What has work being hectic, got to do with drawing female interest through posting pictures? Aren't chicks fighting to get with you, due to the pic posted?
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