lispo Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 my ex and i were together for 3 yrs..we lived together..we argued sometimes as all couples do. we are both in college and did the best that we could to make eachother happy. during the summer of 2009 he cheated on me with his so called friend. i did not handle the situation very well. we argued about it all the time. mainly because she kept calling and he never asked her to stop. she would do things to make me mad like text me phone. yet he still kept her as a friend. he said he needed space to feel like a college guy. eventually he told me he didn't love me anymore. and broke up with me. he is now with this gurl he cheated on me with, but it's along distance relationship. we still live together and it is really hard 4 me cuz i hear him on the phone all the time. i miss being with him and still love him ALOT. it's been 3 months since the breakup and i still cry and hurt alot! will he ever come back to me?
LostInLimbo Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 He cheated on you and will he comeback to you? do you really want him back? and possibly put yourself through it again? I know that part, trust me....as for living with him still, thats gotta be damn hard, can you not move out? do you want to move out? as it would be the best thing to do... LiL
Rearden Metal Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Doesn't sound like he's coming back, hun. And I doubt that you'd want him to even if he did. Make a clean break!
Ilovecake Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 He sounds horrible, a complete loser, jerk. Why would you want that? You're in college for gods sake go out there and have some fun before it's too late. Do you want to sit around when your old remembering your college days as pining for a guy that treated you like a doormat? Is that what you'll have to tell your grand kids about? Oh and get a new place to live ASAP.
GrayClouds Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 my ex and i were together for 3 yrs..we lived together..we argued sometimes as all couples do. we are both in college and did the best that we could to make eachother happy. during the summer of 2009 he cheated on me with his so called friend. i did not handle the situation very well. we argued about it all the time. mainly because she kept calling and he never asked her to stop. she would do things to make me mad like text me phone. yet he still kept her as a friend. he said he needed space to feel like a college guy. eventually he told me he didn't love me anymore. and broke up with me. he is now with this gurl he cheated on me with, but it's along distance relationship. we still live together and it is really hard 4 me cuz i hear him on the phone all the time. i miss being with him and still love him ALOT. it's been 3 months since the breakup and i still cry and hurt alot! will he ever come back to me? I understand that feeling of loss because you loved him deeply, but please understand he did not respect your love. You need to focus on healing yourself. Read the following: So you want a second chance? Make this your life, teach yourself that behavior he shows in not one that someone who love you shows, discover that you and your love deserve better. Good luck, Go NC, it will get better.
MellowScout Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 I'm confused, you are still living with this guy who cheated on on you? Maybe I read your post wrong, but that is what it sounds like and if that's the case, MOVE OUT! My respectful suggestion is that you find some books that can help you with your self-esteem. Wanting to be with some one who cheated on you, that means there is something inside of you that really needs to change. What you should be focusing on is healing from this relationship and figuring out where you want your life to go. You are young, the world is full of possibilities and there isn't any reason to be with some one so disrespectful. Don't stay with a cheater because you need validation! Find the validation that you are a good and worthy and lovable person from inside of yourself and leave that cheater holding the phone! Don't look back, look ahead!
skydiveaddict Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 I'm confused, you are still living with this guy who cheated on on you? Maybe I read your post wrong, but that is what it sounds like and if that's the case, MOVE OUT! Agreed................. seems weird you're still living with him
carnegie Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 I can see your feeling of loss. that's painful! I can feel it because I was also in the same situation. But just one thing we can do, that's move on with our own life. Sound hard, but we must try! You can take a visit around this site and see how people doing with this problem! the best answer is going NC, fully NC! Hope you can move on soon. what ever it happens, your heart can heal as time goes by! good luck!
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