parkeruk1 Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 hi, i have posted a long thread elsewhere on my break up last week from my partner( we are both male and have married here in UK) He is 27 i am 45 he ended it last week saying he had changed but still loved me as a best friend, without going through details we have been through a lot together , i was devastated, he is seeing someone else (three times so far) but has already decided to look for a flat with the new guy (new guy is 42), we would have lost our flat in a couple of months due to my financial problems but he agreed a few months ago he should get accomodation while i go to my parents to save us money while things pick up. he is at university and studying 24/7. i am confused over a few fronts, firstly how can you meet someone and after just a few times decide to move in!!! he tells me the guy would get the flat for him so they can meet on weekends and its cheaper than hotels!!! weird. its strange how you meet in a bar and it just happens this guy is looking for a flat, speaking as his best friend i am worried firstly hes being taken advantage of, a 42 year old must think hes got it made to have a 27 year old for weekends, no wonder hes getting a flat for him!! , and secondly i think hes jumped in too quick as a desperate measure without talking about it. i understand if hes changed yes people do, but its happened right on time!!, we havent had sexual realtions for about a year but we have got on great and are there for eachother, i am not interested in other guys . its strange but what kind of love is it when i feel so right just hugging him or holding his hand and i can FEEL the love in my heart. but at the same time i dont fantasise about him sexually , im confused. is that a best friend?? anyway he rang me yesterday just to see how i was and general chat, and to see if i wanted to go to the cinema on the weekend. i was thinking of NC but i miss him. what to do
LostInLimbo Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Plain and Simple (3 times already) if you wanna it say (4 times now) then break NC, if you don't, remain NC..... You will be fine, your emotions are high right now, don't do that to yourself, you will only build his ego and keep him feeding off your emotions, cause why? because he can and your letting him.. Find someone who will care for you so you never have to write (3times/4times) again.. Best Wishes LiL
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