Zorie Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 When meeting someone for a first date do you generally feel more comfortable shaking hands or giving a friendly hug? I know it would also depend of how much communication was shared before the first meeting and how "comfortable" you may feel with the person before meeting. I just think the first meeting is awkward to begin with and It always seems so impersonal to me to greet a date by shaking hands. Tonight I'm meeting someone I've been chatting with for a couple of weeks and I'd much prefer a hug but I don't want to freak him out either... Would love feedback from both sides, how you prefer to greet a first date meeting and reactions if you had someone come up and hug you. If there is a mutual initial attraction, I'm also thinking a hug would be a good icebreaker
tigressA Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Pretty much all of my first dates/meetings started with a hug. There were a couple that started out awkwardly, with no physical contact at all, and that was due to an overall feeling of uncertainty or lack of intense initial attraction. So if there's an overall positive vibe and there's mutual initial attraction, definitely go for the hug.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 For me, I prefer a hug if I'm really attracted to the guy. But when I met my BF, I went for the hug and he went for the handshake. lol It's something we laugh about now, but it was so awkward! He gave me a hug at the end of the night though.
Author Zorie Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 Crazy Magnet - that's too funny and I could totally see something like that happening to me! If I'm attracted to him then I'm hoping to go for the hug, unless I chicken out last minute!
zebracolors Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 In that situation, I would want a friendly hug I think. Ive been on a date after all, not just finishing up a job interview. Maybe just a personal preference for me.
Alexz Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I recommend sneezing in your hand, wiping it on your chest, then offering a handshake. Maybe smack a nearby girl's ass to make it more fun. No, I'm kidding. Generally, I want for the close hug. Depending on how your man reacts, it can brief or prolonged, based on physical attraction. Go for the hug.
paleblue Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 shaking hands = bad. friendly hug = good. good luck. let us know how it goes.
D-Lish Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 I don' even think about stuff like that. When I meet someone I just do what seems natural at the time. I've hugged before and I've shaken hands before... I just go with the flow and play off the person I am meeting. Whether you hug or shake hands isn't going to be a deal breaker or anything, so it's not worth overthinking it.
Chitowngirl Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 I would think the guy was weird if he went to shake my hand. I have always hugged the person lightly, and if I really liked them I kissed on the cheek. I only did that to my ex-fiance on our first date though. He later told me he thought that was too forward. My last date kissed me on the cheek with the greeting and it felt informal and made me wonder if he kissed every girl on the cheek. I'm going to stick with hugs.
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