soup Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 OK I know I just had a messy breakup which is affecting my thinking but: I'm nearly 40, male. I had a lot of relationships. I felt like I wanted to settle down a couple of times but the feeling never lasted. I definitely don't want kids. I love my own space, being creative alone, having my place the way I like it. But I get lonely, my work is very solitary. I like female company, I like cuddles, I like sex. I also like having the bed to myself sometimes, staying up all night working on something and eating my meals at the wrong times sometimes. I can't be around someone every night of the week. I can't answer the phone every time it rings if it rings several times a day. I guess I should just hang around with friends more and stay single. I only seem to hurt people when I care about them because after a while, I feel I have to leave them to let them find someone who will give them a family etc., or else I want to carry on as things are when they want to marry, have kids etc. I suppose I'm not normal for not wanting that. Does it mean it's wrong for me to try and have relationships? Dishonest? I know I'm not "normal" but I'm a nice person. I don't want to hurt others. I don't want to be alone all the time but I really need to be alone about half the time.
nowomanocry Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Hiya mate Theres nothing wrong with singles aged at their 40's (welcome to the club mate) Everyone needs their own space and being in a relationship is not a block to this if two parties are mature persons respecting each other Every healthy male needs a relationship and theres nothing wrong with that - of course you are going to socialise and meet new people and gurls. There nothing wrong with that Hope this helps you a bit....
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