Lucy_b Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Hi, I will be at a friends party where there is a woman i am intrested in and have been for a long while now next week end. she is very shy and I was wondering if anyone could give me any tips on how to get her to open up a little and talk about herself in the aim just to get to know each other as friends and swap numbers. as far as I know she is a wonderful person kind and warm hearted.
counterman Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Well, I think if you haven't introduce yourself, you can do that first and then just start talking about how you know your friend so you have something in common already. Maybe share a funny story as well. You're trying to get her to be comfortable with you and, if you are talking to her as though you've known her for a while, then it shows that you are comfortable with yourself as well and that would put her at ease. So, offer some information on your part and ask about her. Genuinely listen to what she has to say and ask a few follow up questions to show that you have been listening. Always be sure to volunteer information on whatever you ask her. After things go well, and you feel that she's warming to you, tell her you have to get back to your friends and that you would love to talk to her again. Then, ask for her number. If she seems hesitant, offer your number. That's my opinion anyways. Hope it helps!
Author Lucy_b Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 thank you counterman I will take the advice that sounds like a great way to get to know her even if it is just friends. I'm slighty nervous as I will be around all my friends but hopefuly I can get the convosation started when I buy a round of drinks for my friends I can ask her if she would like a drink and start from there. I will make a second post to let you know how it worked out. Lucy x
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