artchick88 Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Question for all those who felt like reading this: 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? 3.) Did you break up? 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship? Let's see how "once a cheater always a cheater" holds up!
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Question for all those who felt like reading this: 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? yes, once 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? No, I don't beleive its the right thing todo i.e. too painful 3.) Did you break up? No. It was an ONS on tour. If I did it again I would breakup, as clearly there is something wrong with me in the relationship. 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? I she got it out of me and we stayed together I would NOT do it again, but I am sure the relationship would be taited forever. 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship? It did and No. I have been on both sides of the fence and it is soooo painful I now live by the code "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you". Having grown up with parents that have multiple infidelities I now see the error in their ways. I know humans struggle with monogamy, but I just don't want to hurt people in this way. Personally I would rather get hit by a bus than be cheated on.
Leia Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? No 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? Since I have never cheated and don't cheat in relationships, my answer would be no 3.) Did you break up? N/A 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? N/A 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship? N/A
carhill Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? ........Yes.... E/A (no sex or sexual activities) 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? ..........Yes.... 3.) Did you break up? ...........Yes, divorcing....... 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? N/A 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship?......... No, and it wouldn't matter whether in a relationship or not (OM'itus) Of course, anyone can say anything, but, IMO, full disclosure, transparency and working on the M in MC shows action to back up the words. I have no interest in dealing with that dynamic again.
samsungxoxo Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship?NO 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated?I can't answer this because I never cheated. 3.) Did you break up?Yes I broke up with my boyfriend but it has nothing to do with cheating. It's irrelevant stuff. 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again?Question doesn't apply to me. 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship?Cheating didn't cause my relationship to end. In fact, I might get back with him.. it's something that can be solved. If he would have cheated then I would have never talk to him again.
tigressA Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? Yes, once. 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? Yes. 3.) Did you break up? Not as a consequence of the cheating. 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? Definitely not. 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship? Again, definitely not. I felt absolutely horrid after I cheated on my ex. I never wanted to or tried to justify it. I was honest with him, told him what happened, he forgave me. We were together for another year before I broke up with him. I wouldn't ever put myself or anyone else through that kind of pain and guilt again.
hisprincess41407 Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Question for all those who felt like reading this: 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? 3.) Did you break up? 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship? Let's see how "once a cheater always a cheater" holds up! 1. Yes, I have. 2. Yes, I did. 3. No, he took some time to think about it and I apologized a lot and he gave me a second chance. 4. Never. It was very painful to tell the person that I love that I betrayed them like that. It was a more complicated situation than just I went out and found someone else but I would never do it again. And he ended up cheating on me in the end of our relationship. So maybe it was karma and I deserved it but maybe my cheating did eventually lead to me losing the love of my life. Cheating is the worst decision I've ever made.
paleblue Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Question for all those who felt like reading this: 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? 3.) Did you break up? 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship? Let's see how "once a cheater always a cheater" holds up! 1. no 2. n/a 3. n/a 4. n/a 5. no never cheated on any of my girlfriends - EVER! altho my ex ex that i worked with in my old office, she decided to get slap happy with me one night after drinking too much. so i dumped her and then had sex with three different women in the office for revenge. the funny thing is none of them ever told her. we never got back together either even tho she tried 2 years later.
threebyfate Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? No. The balance of the questions are not applicable. You can run a poll but what people say and what people do in the future, can be two different things. A cheater can only change, if they change their coping tools. Pretty tough stuff, especially since most people don't understand themselves very well. Understanding yourself, is a lifelong task of navel-gazing.
anne1707 Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 You can run a poll but what people say and what people do in the future, can be two different things. Which in turn means those who say they will never cheat may well actually end up cheating themselves. Works both ways.
BG1985 Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Which in turn means those who say they will never cheat may well actually end up cheating themselves. Works both ways. Yeah I don't think people ever plan on cheating in a relationship. Well, I'm sure it happens some, such as getting revenge.
threebyfate Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Past behaviour is more indicative of future behaviour. That's why running polls on what people think v. what they've done, are two different things. If someone cheats, it's more likely they'll do it again. If someone has resisted cheating, it's less likely they will do it, in the future.
anne1707 Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Yes but we all know how flawed polls can be on LS if someone has their own agenda.
Author artchick88 Posted February 28, 2010 Author Posted February 28, 2010 Past behaviour is more indicative of future behaviour. That's why running polls on what people think v. what they've done, are two different things. . Pretty sure this "poll" addresses what people have done AND what they think they would/will do in future relationships. The point it to understand the relationship between past action and future intent.
Author artchick88 Posted February 28, 2010 Author Posted February 28, 2010 I should probably reply since I created this survey. 1.) yes 2.) yes 3.) yes 4.) No definitely not. 5.) I intend to never cheat again. The guilt and regret I felt still haunt me. However, I know that strong attraction to someone who is not your S/O can be tempting, especially if you are not satisfied in your current relationship. Hopefully I never have to deal with that again.
thisdayforward Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 Question for all those who felt like reading this: 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? 3.) Did you break up? 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship? Let's see how "once a cheater always a cheater" holds up! 1) Yes, an affair that lasted for a few months. 2) No, but he still found out. I admitted to it when he confronted me. I never directly lied to him about it. And I never wanted him to know. I never wanted to hurt him. 3) We're divorced now. 4) N/A 5) The cheating didn't cause our relationship to end. There was a whole slew of problems that led up to the cheating. After I was found out, we tried to turn things around. But deep down I didn't want the marriage to work and he let go. I'm relieved to be out of my marriage. It wasn't right for me. But if I could go back, I would not cheat again. I would go back to the day that I realized I could enter into an affair. Instead of starting the affair, I would talk to my husband and tell him how far it had come for me. If I could, I would go back and respectfully get out of the marriage instead of cheating before getting out.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 NO I can't answer this because I never cheated. Yes I broke up with my boyfriend but it has nothing to do with cheating. It's irrelevant stuff. Question doesn't apply to me. Cheating didn't cause my relationship to end. In fact, I might get back with him.. it's something that can be solved. If he would have cheated then I would have never talk to him again. I dunno, some people would see having internet sex as cheating. I know, I know....you don't think it is.
aerogurl87 Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? Sadly yes. 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? Yes the very next day after it happened. 3.) Did you break up? Yes, then got back together and broke up a few more times after that. 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? I didn't do it again because 1) it was a one time thing that happened because I was in a tempting situation with too much alcohol in my system. Didn't put myself in such a situation again so no more temptations. Plus I was so paranoid he'd leave me (which he did eventually) that I wanted to make everything up to him and try my best to be the best girlfriend ever which meant no more cheating. 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship? Hell to the no! My boyfriend and I have an excellent relationship and there's no way I'd put him through something like that. Especially given his relationship history with his ex who cheated on him. Nope, not gonna happen again, I value our relationship and him too much.
EYECANDY000 Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 1.) Have you ever cheated in a relationship? No 2.) Did you tell your partner that you cheated? N/a 3.) Did you break up? N/a 4.) If you admitted to cheating and stayed together, would/did you do it again? N/a 5.) If cheating caused your previous relationship to end would/did you do it in your next relationship? N/a Let's see how "once a cheater always a cheater" holds up!
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