joeydeee Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Hi, i am going through a break up. She tells me she doesn't want a relationship any more, but she wants to be my friend. I still have feelings for her. we went out for a year. at first she was inlove with me and i wasn't really inlove with her, because it seemed everything happend to fast. as time went on i fell in love with her and she fell out of love with me.. now i am the one hurt... she has no friends because she is not from around my area. i would get jelouse when she would hang with guy friends and think she would want to be with them, she swears she has no feelings toward anyone else just wants space to hang out and have a good time and not answer to any one. Make the long story short, she says she wants to be friends, so i read a book and descided to put the no contact into effect and tell her i am sorry and i respect the fact that you dont want to be with me any more but i can't talk to you because it coulds my thoughts .. what do i do if she calls? should i not answer? what if she texts ? not answer? just ignore her?? i still want to be with her because i love her and i respect the fact she needs space..... but at the same time i can not be her friend because i get feelings for her when i hear her voice.... she tells me she dont want to hang out because she has feelings for me and that she will get sucked back in...... what do i do?? how do i approach this?? she swears she doesn't want to be with anyone else she just wants time to do what ever she wants
skydiveaddict Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 she calls? dont answer, text? dont reply (dont even read it) email same thing. dont look at her fb page etc. You need to move on. She doesn't exist as far as you're concerned. And THAT my friend, is how you heal from this
Author joeydeee Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 she calls? dont answer, text? dont reply (dont even read it) email same thing. dont look at her fb page etc. You need to move on. She doesn't exist as far as you're concerned. And THAT my friend, is how you heal from this but i want her back .... when do i give in?? when she beggs? and says she's sorry and wants to try again?? i can't be friends with her so i am kind of waiting for that kind of message,, but then again thinking if i dont answer she retaliate in some way , ya know?
Beolf Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 hang in there it's tough. you're not alone, i'm going through the exact same thing only my ex is seeing other guys and lying to me and saying she isn't. she wants to still be friends, but it's impossible. take the above advice and she no longer exists to you my friend or else you will suffer for a long, long time.
skydiveaddict Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 but i want her back .... when do i give in?? when she beggs? and says she's sorry and wants to try again?? i can't be friends with her so i am kind of waiting for that kind of message,, but then again thinking if i dont answer she retaliate in some way , ya know? She's not going to beg. she's not gonna say sorry. You're right you cant be friends, for your own sanity. It's tough to hear, but she's not coming back. Charge ahead my friend. Wait for nothing. She is gone
Author joeydeee Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 hang in there it's tough. you're not alone, i'm going through the exact same thing only my ex is seeing other guys and lying to me and saying she isn't. she wants to still be friends, but it's impossible. take the above advice and she no longer exists to you my friend or else you will suffer for a long, long time. see i dont think she is really into other guys.. if sucks so bad i dont know what to do i feel i will never find anyone as pretty as her again or have the same qualities as her........
GrayClouds Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Read these things: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? Pay special attention to the working on yourself parts. Keep the focus on you and making you better and what ever the EX does it will not matter.
skydiveaddict Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 see i dont think she is really into other guys.. if sucks so bad i dont know what to do i feel i will never find anyone as pretty as her again or have the same qualities as her........ Joey, it doesn't matter if she's into other guys. She's NOT into you anymore. start your new life today, now. Find another girl. She's old news
Author joeydeee Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 Joey, it doesn't matter if she's into other guys. She's NOT into you anymore. start your new life today, now. Find another girl. She's old news i have the hardest time breaking the ice with girls..... she said she still has feelings for me and possibly could regain feelings like she had before... does that matter or is that bs?
GrayClouds Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 i have the hardest time breaking the ice with girls..... she said she still has feelings for me and possibly could regain feelings like she had before... does that matter or is that bs? BS...once the feeling are not their, there is nothing you can do to change it. Did you read your links?
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 what do i do?? how do i approach this?? she swears she doesn't want to be with anyone else she just wants time to do what ever she wants space = I am keeping my options open and you are not top of that list friends = I feel guilty as hell as I am dumping you Don't worry about other guys, because it is a moot point. Stay NC ignore her at all costs. Get on with YOUR life. If she comes back groveling for a second change, tell her you might consider it, but need some SPACE to think about it!
skydiveaddict Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 i have the hardest time breaking the ice with girls..... she said she still has feelings for me and possibly could regain feelings like she had before... does that matter or is that bs? No one knows. If she wants to come back to you ,she will. You gotta be the tough guy now. She wants to end this? Fine. But that means no more contact. Joey is moving on, TONIGHT! Dont let her push you around.
Author joeydeee Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 No one knows. If she wants to come back to you ,she will. You gotta be the tough guy now. She wants to end this? Fine. But that means no more contact. Joey is moving on, TONIGHT! Dont let her push you around. dude as we speak she is texting me like crazy saying: im depressed, i know you dont want to talk, not bout us but about life, philly sucks, i dont want to live here........ i didnt answer.. wtf! i just wanna say **** you to her and get lost for real
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 if sucks so bad i dont know what to do i feel i will never find anyone as pretty as her again or have the same qualities as her........ We all fall for a pretty face from time to time, my LS camaraderie. One day you will learn that true beauty comes from within and not in the eye the beholder.
skydiveaddict Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 dude as we speak she is texting me like crazy saying: im depressed, i know you dont want to talk, not bout us but about life, philly sucks, i dont want to live here........ i didnt answer.. wtf! i just wanna say **** you to her and get lost for real You already violated an NC rule. DONT read the texts, delete them on the spot. Block her #. wise words from knight too.
Author joeydeee Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 You already violated an NC rule. DONT read the texts, delete them on the spot. Block her #. wise words from knight too. do you know how? i feel like i can read what she has to say but not give in.. is that wrong??? damn i'm ****ed up like almost panicing i never felt this was before
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 dude as we speak she is texting me like crazy saying: im depressed, i know you dont want to talk, not bout us but about life, philly sucks, i dont want to live here........ i didnt answer.. wtf! i just wanna say **** you to her and get lost for real stay strong now. We all know that you don't want to say "**** you to her and get lost for real". Let it out now here on LS. Post the "I love you baby and always will" stuff right here and now and then go for a long long walk thru philly.
Author joeydeee Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 stay strong now. We all know that you don't want to say "**** you to her and get lost for real". Let it out now here on LS. Post the "I love you baby and always will" stuff right here and now and then go for a long long walk thru philly. should i delet her as my friend on facebook? or keep her on there?
skydiveaddict Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 do you know how? i feel like i can read what she has to say but not give in.. is that wrong??? damn i'm ****ed up like almost panicing i never felt this was before It probably wont make you feel better, but I'm going thru the same thing now too. I just REFUSE to give in. Put your heart and feelings on the chopping block one more time? for what?
Author joeydeee Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 Delete her and never look again, or tell her why. i cant stop looking at her page i am going nuts
skydiveaddict Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 i cant stop looking at her page i am going nuts DELETE HER PAGE can't you see that you're driving yourself insane w/this?
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 should i delet her as my friend on facebook? or keep her on there? First change your status to "taking out the trash", then delete her. Do this NOW... and don't get drunk tonight and then break NC. Go catchup with friends, see your folks, go to the gym or to a strip bar.
Author joeydeee Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 DELETE HER PAGE can't you see that you're driving yourself insane w/this? yes but i want her back bad, i dont have patients
skydiveaddict Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 yes but i want her back bad, i dont have patients You're not getting it. It doesn't matter what you want. SHE'S GONE Time for Joey to become the new Joey, forget her
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 yes but i want her back bad, i dont have patients Then post here what you would say to her!
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