bballer13 Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Just as an overview, I've been going out with this girl for over a month and I've never liked a girl and felt as comfortable as I do around this girl. She's been telling me things like how much she likes me and why would I go out with her and how i could do so much better than her ect ect and well I now realize shes full of ****. We've spent a lot of time together so this is really driving me crazy, and based on the way she acted around me I know she really liked me. It started last saturday. I picked her up to go see a movie at 7. When we got to the movie it was sold out so we bought tickets for the 9 oclock showing. In the meantime we went to my car, and I don't think this is relevant but she gave me head (just had to throw that in there).. everything was going really well.. all the vibes ive ever gotten from her have been really good, including this night. There were no signs that I picked up on telling me otherwise. We see the movie and after the movie we go back to my car and I jokingly lock her out like she always does to me every time she picks me up. She starts to walk away which annoyed me because of how hypocritical it was so when I drove to catch up to her and she got in the car all i said was "I don't care you can walk home if you want." That's literally all I said. She went into mute mode and stopped talking and started crying. She wouldn't even look at me like I was some kind of devil or something. I told her how sorry I was and how much she meant to me and how I would never do anything to intentionally hurt her ect ect. She didn' talk for over 10 minutes when she finally said "What do you want me to say? you brought up memories of my past by telling me to walk home and I was just kidding earlier." (HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO KNOW ABOUT HER PAST!!!) And supposedly she had a history of bad relationships.. I again told her how sorry I was and to please forgive me for overreacting. I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk and she said she needed time to think so she got out of my car and walked away. I of course ran after her and when I caught up to her she told me she needed space so I let her go. After a few minutes passed by I called her and texted her repeatedly.. no response. An hour goes by and im still in the parking lot. I didn't know what to do. I drove around looking for her. I walked around looking for her. Finally an hour and 15 minutes later I get a text saying I'm sorry but it's not gonna work and I found a ride home. I texted her back asking her to please talk to me.. no response The next morning I woke up early because I could not sleep so I texted her again.. no response. I felt like such a bitch because I did nothing wrong but later the next day I drove to her house anyway and brought her flowers but she wasnt home so her sister told me to leave it on the mat of the front door.. no response. Her sister told me that megan had been in her room all day upset but just recently left. I haven't texted her since and have given her space. I made my point clear and whatever happens next is up to her. I've honestly lost a lot of respect for her and I'm glad I saw this side now rather than later, but its been 4 days and I havent heard from her. I hate not having closure more than anything. I think theres more to it than what happened but she's not talking to me so I have no idea what it is. It's driving me crazy that she won't even give me a call to end it like a normal mature person. I'm just so confused and I don't get why if things were going so well she would act like this.. anyone have any ideas?? its been 4 days since I last tried to contact her.
Yamaha Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 You have your closure..."it's not going to work". Time to let it go or you will be a stalker.
hats Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 1. Never apologize to a girl if you don't think you did anything wrong. 2. She sounds crazy. You should be running away, not waiting for her to call!
boogieboy Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Oh shes an ass. She used you locking her out playfully as an excuse to break up with you. She's been wanting to break up with you, and was waiting for you to do something so she can fake being mad at you. So you had no chance, she wanted to use any innocent thing you did that "brought up her past" to break up with you. Problem with this is, you dont know what you did to turn her off a week or so ago. So dont bother chasing her, she probably found someone else to blow in his car. Shes a shady one. Be glad you dodged a bullet.
Author bballer13 Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 I was thinking that she needed an excuse but then why did she sound excited every time I asked her to do something.. she could have just made an excuse. We hung out pretty much every day last week, and I know im being a little bitch but its driving me crazzzayyyyy
make me believe Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I don't think she was looking for an excuse to break up with you, I think she's just a big drama queen and will probably come around as soon as you stop contacting her for awhile. She wants you to grovel & work for her attention, but she's immature & not worth it. As a sidenote, though, I do think that this comment: all i said was "I don't care you can walk home if you want" was pretty mean & unnecessary. You could have just apologized for locking her out, told her you were joking around in the same manner that she does, and left it at that.
DustySaltus Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 She's got a lot of issues here, mental ones. A girl doesn't give you head and then breakup with you 2 hours later without having some sort of SERIOUS screws loose. Either way the juice is not worth the squeeze. Consider yourself lucky.
mortensorchid Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Hmmm ... I would keep my distance if I were you. You made your apology effort and that was that, she should come back and say that she is willing to be good to you as well. She sounds like a bit of a psycho, I'd just move on if I were you. Nevermind her issues or whatever it is she's talking about, she'll find another excuse to be angry at and further annoy you.
boogieboy Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I was thinking that she needed an excuse but then why did she sound excited every time I asked her to do something.. crazzzayyyyy People do that to keep your head in the clouds while they plan on breaking up with you. Its a power move...they act like everything is fine so you dont pick up on them letting go, and break it off with them first. Some people can pull it off.
Johnny M Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 1. Never apologize to a girl if you don't think you did anything wrong. 2. She sounds crazy. You should be running away, not waiting for her to call! All that needs to be said, really.
phineas Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 When my buddy was dateing his now wife we double dated for the movies. After the movie she got up & left. We were watching the credits. When we got out of the theater she litterally kicked the doors open & stormed into the parking lot. Waited by the car all pissed off & when we all got in told my buddy to take him home. she didn't want to watch the credits & when she didn't get her way..... Total princess / drama queen. He is living in his own personal hell by the way.
DustySaltus Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 When my buddy was dateing his now wife we double dated for the movies. After the movie she got up & left. We were watching the credits. When we got out of the theater she litterally kicked the doors open & stormed into the parking lot. Waited by the car all pissed off & when we all got in told my buddy to take him home. she didn't want to watch the credits & when she didn't get her way..... Total princess / drama queen. He is living in his own personal hell by the way. Damn, I didn't know we went to the movies together. sounds eerily similar to a past situation I found myself in.
threebyfate Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 "I don't care you can walk home if you want."That`s equivalent to saying, "I don't care what happens to you, if you walk home by yourself". Most women want protective men, ones who will ensure their safety, especially when out late at night.
Author bballer13 Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 I know it was but her walking away was unnecessary and hypocritical.. I mean I said I was sorry and if I woulda known that she was gonna have a nervous breakdown I prob wouldnt have said that to her lol. I even bought her f***ing flowers and she still wont talk to me.. How F***ed up is that?!?! This is by far the most psychotic episode I've ever witnessed in my short lifetime
Alexz Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 That`s equivalent to saying, "I don't care what happens to you, if you walk home by yourself". Most women want protective men, ones who will ensure their safety, especially when out late at night. Yeah, but he was just joking with her since she does the same to him. Op, she's a bitch. You seem to be a fun humorous guy, she wanted an excuse, get over her. You CAN do better.
threebyfate Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 The easiest way to have defrayed this drama, rather than ramp it up, is not to have suggested a walk to her, after the faux pas about not caring. IF she had wanted a walk, she would have suggested it herself. Instead, you suggest a walk to her...late at night...in the dark...by herself, after earlier suggesting you don`t care what happens to her. Instead, IF she had wanted to go for a walk, just say `No, I`m concerned about your safety and it`s not a good time to go walking around by yourself. If you need some time away from me, I`ll drive you home right now and we can discuss this tomorrow. I care a great deal about you and was only joking, earlier.`
Zeegagge Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Man forget what all these people are saying about how bad it is you said to walk home. Sheesh folks, seriously, overanalyzing a little? Get a sense of humor like this dude has and his ex needs. Forget this girl too, she's a psycho drama queen and immature. She will only lead to trouble, I know her type all too well. Learn from my mistakes. Also download the song "F*cked up Girl" by the Vandals. It's only slightly relevant but whatever.
Author bballer13 Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 I suggested a walk together and I told her that I was sorry and didn't mean what I said multiple times earlier. I ran after her. I can't force her to do something she doesn't want to do. She asked for space so I gave it to her.
New_Life08 Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 (edited) As a sidenote, though, I do think that this comment: all i said was "I don't care you can walk home if you want" was pretty mean & unnecessary. You could have just apologized for locking her out, told her you were joking around in the same manner that she does, and left it at that. True...when you said that, it probably came off as arrogant. She probably wasn't in the mood to be locked out of the car. What did you do--- keep hitting the gas every time she got to the car door? LOL. Just sounds like you hurt her feelings (or embarrassed) her in some way? Did you make any other cracks to her during the movie that may have upset her? Did you make any jokes about the bj or anything? Edited February 26, 2010 by New_Life08
Ruby Slippers Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 A girl doesn't give you head and then breakup with you 2 hours later without having some sort of SERIOUS screws loose. Now that you mention it, it's pretty crappy to tell your girl "I don't care; you can walk home if you want" right after she's given you a great BJ. And men wonder why women withhold sex.
Author bballer13 Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 lol that just gave me a good laugh.. f*** em all. secondly she gave me a bj before the movie 3 hours earlier so it wasnt relevant. She locks me out every time she picks me up and I laugh cuz well its not a big deal. And actually shes been wanting to f*** more than I have. Ive been nothing but good to this girl and I now realize she isnt the sweet girl I thought she was. A normal person talks, idk wat goes through her pyschotic mute mind if she doesnt talk to me. She got a ride home from her sisters exboyfriend.
ViciousViolet Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 This girl is crazy and has past unresolved issues. She'll probably come back, but if you continue this relationship I guarantee it'll be HELL. Move on and spend your time, energy, and flowers on a woman who will appreciate it.
D-Lish Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 Either there is more to the story you aren't being honest about, or she's more trouble than she's worth. Maybe she's pissed she gave you head and you didn't reciprocate before the movie. Who knows. If you didn't do anything wrong, or react in a mean way- and you're being 100% honest about how this went down without omitting any thing else that could be relevant... Then the only possible answer is that she was looking for an excuse to break up with you.
Author bballer13 Posted February 26, 2010 Author Posted February 26, 2010 I honestly dont think this is a good reason, but I learned from her sister the next day that she got in a fight with her dad because I didnt come to the door when i picked her up.. supposedly she wanted me to meet her parents but i just texted her to come out when i got there. and also during the movie we were sitting in the front row and she was leaning on me and looked really uncomfortable so I asked her if she was uncomfortable and she said a little so i told her to sit up so that her neck wasnt in an awkward position and she started to act kinda wierd after that, but thats all i can think of. if she doesnt talk to me about wats bothering me than i cant know. honestly i dont know why this is bothering me so much. shes a complete bitch and i have to stop being a pussy and move on.
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