ussy Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Right, long story short, my ex left me 2 months back after a 3 year relationship. Basically ive just been making every mistake known to mankind and begging for her back for the last 2 months. Then....... when i think of going NC to heal myself she sends me a message saying "ring me". Me like a fool, gets my hopes up high, only to be let down like an assclown. She just wanted to flip out on me for f***ing talking about her to someone....... wtf is that all about. She's there screaming down the phone, then when i try to say something back its just always "ive got to go now..... BYE!!!" and just cuts the phone off. FFS then me like an idiot just keeps ringing and ringing her, and she answers like 1 out of every 5 calls and then says a few words and cuts me off. I had enough of that crap, this time as soon as she answered i just exploded, swearing, shouting..... basically everything. All she had to say was "dont shout at me"..... kind of ironic really as she was doing the same thing to me a few seconds ago!! Then i send her such a long text message, to which she replied "thanks for that, bye". Then again, i send such a long text message, but this time i get no reply!!!!!!! Then a few hours later, i text her saying i was sorry!!!!! FFS what am i doing to myself???? Im starting to miss her so much more! Its like everytime she flips out on me, i miss her more..... I dont understand it at all, someone please help me
alphamale Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 dude you have a LOT to learn about chicks
McGrupp Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 oh you remind me of myself, 4 months ago. here's what you do. realize its over. did you read that? its over. ok. then let go. you ready? let go. and then do this, dont blame yourself for acting this way. she is doing it to you. practice self control. NC now. and you know the rest. cmon man. dont be that guy.
counterman Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Okay, just take a moment here and take a deep breathe. That is what happens when you contact an ex-girlfriend. First, good on you for recognising you have made a few mistakes there. That is okay though, you will learn from it. The thing with your ex is that she enjoys the fact that you are still showing feelings for her after she's left you; it gives her a real ego boost. So, every time you call or text, it shows that you care. She has broken up with you and she will always want the last laugh when it comes to hurting you. Whatever you do when it comes to contacting her, you will come off second best. Why? You are not going to get her back. She can always choose not to reply to you or, when she does, she will cut you off after having saying the last word. As for you swearing at her, why would it bother her? She has left you. As for begging her back, she will think that you are desperate and needy. However, we all make mistakes. Show a little more self-respect because you must admit to yourself that by contacting her, you aren't really gaining anything here. I think the more she flips out at you, the more you miss her because you want what you can't have. Simply. I recommend you stop contacting her and just delete all her contact details. Don't let this drag on for any longer and take care of yourself.
Author ussy Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 oh you remind me of myself, 4 months ago. here's what you do. realize its over. did you read that? its over. ok. then let go. you ready? let go. and then do this, dont blame yourself for acting this way. she is doing it to you. practice self control. NC now. and you know the rest. cmon man. dont be that guy. Yeah i know thats what i need to do..... Its just so hard actually "doing" it. I always get voices in my head telling me i cant move on, its so painful man. Ive been with a few chicks, but this 1 was different..... i truly loved her i guess..... I cant wait for the day i finally get over her:(
Author ussy Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 Okay, just take a moment here and take a deep breathe. That is what happens when you contact an ex-girlfriend. First, good on you for recognising you have made a few mistakes there. That is okay though, you will learn from it. The thing with your ex is that she enjoys the fact that you are still showing feelings for her after she's left you; it gives her a real ego boost. So, every time you call or text, it shows that you care. She has broken up with you and she will always want the last laugh when it comes to hurting you. Whatever you do when it comes to contacting her, you will come off second best. Why? You are not going to get her back. She can always choose not to reply to you or, when she does, she will cut you off after having saying the last word. As for you swearing at her, why would it bother her? She has left you. As for begging her back, she will think that you are desperate and needy. However, we all make mistakes. Show a little more self-respect because you must admit to yourself that by contacting her, you aren't really gaining anything here. I think the more she flips out at you, the more you miss her because you want what you can't have. Simply. I recommend you stop contacting her and just delete all her contact details. Don't let this drag on for any longer and take care of yourself. Thanks for that : )
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