moodoo Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Ok so this isn't my first girlfriend or anything like that nor am I a virgin. I've been on 7 or 8 dates with this girl and we really like each other alot, but it just seems like every date ends in us making out and then that's it. We're both over 25 so this is kind of weird for me, but I have a feeling she's worried because we've been friends for a while and I kind of have a reputation as someone who hooks up with alot of girls. Our dates together have been amazing, we laugh, I always take her to nice places, and I've bought he a couple small gifts.....It's just I'm getting to the point where it's like ok enough with the making out.....is this normal as a guy, or am I wrong to feel like this? Im seeing her tonight, any ideas on how to get through this?
alphamale Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 i assume you're doing the "making out" at her place and not in a car or back alley. if so the natural progression is as so: heavy petting/kissing for around 20 minutessay to her "let me know if i need to stop anytime"place hand on breast and play with it and the nippleput hand under her shirt and fondle the breast(s)keep on kissing during thisafter roughly 10 minutes of breast play move your hand to her crotchstart to play with her vaginal area while shes still clothedkeep on kissing (neck, ears, lips)massage her vaginal area for around 15 minutesshe should now be ready to go
JessaL Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Have you been making moves, and she's turned you down? Or are you complaining because you've never made a move, and neither has she?
Author moodoo Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 I havent made a move because i dont want to be pushy and scare her away, I almost gave up after 4 dates and no kiss....the fact that we're at making out now is a good sign in my book, it's just like we'll kiss for 5-6 minutes and then she's like ok I really had a great time tonight, lets get together tom.....we've been on like 8 dates in 12 days. Its just like how do I get this a little further, I mean she's clearly interested right, why else would she hang out with me so much and make out with me?
JessaL Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Its just like how do I get this a little further Easy. Make a move.
Soul Bear Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Im seeing her tonight, any ideas on how to get through this? Yeah, A bottle of vodka and a packet of condoms:bunny:
alphamale Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I havent made a move because i dont want to be pushy and scare her away,
lordWilhelm Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Either you make a move, or try to reduce the frequency of these dates! If you keep dating at this rate without anything happening, she'll probably think you're not interested. On the other hand, it's perfectly valid to take your time... in that case date like once a week or something like that.
counterman Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 i assume you're doing the "making out" at her place and not in a car or back alley. if so the natural progression is as so: heavy petting/kissing for around 20 minutessay to her "let me know if i need to stop anytime"place hand on breast and play with it and the nippleput hand under her shirt and fondle the breast(s)keep on kissing during thisafter roughly 10 minutes of breast play move your hand to her crotchstart to play with her vaginal area while shes still clothedkeep on kissing (neck, ears, lips)massage her vaginal area for around 15 minutesshe should now be ready to go This..... ;)
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 12 days seems kind of early to expect sex or have you known her longer?
Thebob Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Get drunk, and go for gold, if she stops you she stops you. BUt gotta man up and take the initiative. DOn't do it on her terms, do it on yours. Thebob
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 12 days seems kind of early to expect sex or have you known her longer? how many days do the rules say?
tkgirl Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 (edited) i assume you're doing the "making out" at her place and not in a car or back alley. if so the natural progression is as so: heavy petting/kissing for around 20 minutessay to her "let me know if i need to stop anytime"place hand on breast and play with it and the nippleput hand under her shirt and fondle the breast(s)keep on kissing during thisafter roughly 10 minutes of breast play move your hand to her crotchstart to play with her vaginal area while shes still clothedkeep on kissing (neck, ears, lips)massage her vaginal area for around 15 minutesshe should now be ready to go I can see OP using one of those plastic kitchen timer thinigies... 20 minutes... DING! time to start playing with her breasts... 10 minutes later... DING! move down to her crotch.... DING!!! Edited February 25, 2010 by tkgirl
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 how many days do the rules say? I wouldn't know! The man who respects a woman would say "12 days of dating is kind of early."
Thebob Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I wouldn't know! The man who respects a woman would say "12 days of dating is kind of early." Can't respect women cause they don't respect us, go for GOLD! and pull the trigger. Thebob
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Can't respect women cause they don't respect us, go for GOLD! and pull the trigger. Thebob "She hit me, first." Stop grouping all women together!
zhsoj Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I wouldn't know! The man who respects a woman would say "12 days of dating is kind of early." This doesn't make much sense to me. Respect in this context is about understanding her desires. Since she is her own person, then it would be necessary to learn those in order to be respectful... How does one learn those then. He can either outright ask or he can do so experimentally. Which would you prefer he do if you were in her shoes? I think this is interesting from a less aggressive guys viewpoint. There are obviously women out there that take more or less of an initiative. So in this case her not helping the physical aspect progress does not necessarily imply that she doesn't want it to progress, right?
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 (edited) This doesn't make much sense to me. Respect in this context is about understanding her desires. Since she is her own person, then it would be necessary to learn those in order to be respectful... How does one learn those then. He can either outright ask or he can do so experimentally. Which would you prefer he do if you were in her shoes? I think this is interesting from a less aggressive guys viewpoint. There are obviously women out there that take more or less of an initiative. So in this case her not helping the physical aspect progress does not necessarily imply that she doesn't want it to progress, right? Apparently it does imply that she did NOT want it to progress according to this poster's newer thread. She didn't even know the 8 dates were "dates." He also indicated in this thread that each time they were kissing she would stop the make-out session and say goodnight so she was showing an initiative to not go further. As far as respect, if I had been "on like 8 dates in 12 days" with a guy (which I wouldn't do) I would think it's too early for him to expect sex. Two weeks of dating is too soon to get intimate, no matter how many dates you manage to stuff in there. I would "prefer" that he felt the same way. But this only applies if a man is relationship minded and if he wants "her" to view "him" as relationship material. Edited February 25, 2010 by txsilkysmoothe
Thebob Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 "She hit me, first." Stop grouping all women together! Majority of women! I would be the luckiest man in the world if I met someone like you who actually respects guys. Thebob
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