sagetalk Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I know exactly where they are. In the "friend zone" pile where you females throw us. I'm so SICK of this question, and after hearing it enough, I'm getting sick of being the nice guy. We're invisible. We own the ears lent to you when you want to talk about your jacka$$ of a boyfriend. We own the shoulders you cry on when these jerks treat you like crap time and time again. And after we're used up and you're feeling better, we get tossed back into that pile again, for the next time you have a rainy day. And you keep going back to those guys. OPEN. YOUR. EYES. I cannot tell you how many women have told me point blank to my face, "I have terrible taste in men", "I am a terrible judge of character". It is horrifying, because they aren't kidding at all. They date and marry the worst, meanest losers you will ever meet. Why? I really have no understanding of this topic other than their low self esteem and not thinking they are worthy of a decent guy. My advice is to stay away from them when they are talking about their dumb jerk boyfriend, and change the subject when they do. Or better yet, find a girl that wants to be treated well and stop trying to pursue women that like being abused.
counterman Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I cannot tell you how many women have told me point blank to my face, "I have terrible taste in men", "I am a terrible judge of character". It is horrifying, because they aren't kidding at all. They date and marry the worst, meanest losers you will ever meet. Why? I really have no understanding of this topic other than their low self esteem and not thinking they are worthy of a decent guy. My advice is to stay away from them when they are talking about their dumb jerk boyfriend, and change the subject when they do. Or better yet, find a girl that wants to be treated well and stop trying to pursue women that like being abused. Agreed, I don't think those girls are worth your time.
tami-chan Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Agreed, I don't think those girls are worth your time. who is?
Seymore Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I cannot tell you how many women have told me point blank to my face, "I have terrible taste in men", "I am a terrible judge of character". It is horrifying, because they aren't kidding at all. They date and marry the worst, meanest losers you will ever meet. Why? I really have no understanding of this topic other than their low self esteem and not thinking they are worthy of a decent guy. My advice is to stay away from them when they are talking about their dumb jerk boyfriend, and change the subject when they do. Or better yet, find a girl that wants to be treated well and stop trying to pursue women that like being abused. And when a woman like that says "Where are all the good men?" I will tell them the truth: "You wouldn't even know what to do if you found one".
counterman Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 who is? Oops. Forget what I said! I was thinking about something else when I read that post. LOL
tami-chan Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Oops. Forget what I said! I was thinking about something else when I read that post. LOL uh-huh...shure...
Thebob Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Agreed, I don't think those girls are worth your time. Umm, every girl is like that pretty much? so Nice guys don't stand a chance, and if a nice guy is lucky enough to reach the marriage point, that girl is going to eventually get sick of him cause he isn't a challenge anymore. THANKS MTV for corrupting women, and all those magazines and junk. Nice guys don't stand a chance anymore. Thebob
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 OK I don't know if it's just me or what but am i the only one who just isn't meeting nice guys? It seems like every guy I meet is a jerk or is lazy Where do you go to meet good men? lol thats easy... we go to a place called NiceGuy land, where we are constantly dumped in cold water and slapped in the face, then once we stop sobbing we are released back to planet Earth where we become lazy jerks. Please define jerk and lazy.
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 THANKS MTV for corrupting women, and all those magazines and junk. Nice guys don't stand a chance anymore. don't forget Sex in the City.
counterman Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 From my personal experience, I do agree that nice guys do not really stand a chance. One of my friends, he's the nicest fella you could meet. He's really confident and, overall, a.. nice guy. He's probably had a million first dates with girls (he has always paid), who would all probably deny that it was never a date in the first place. He's never been further than that. The one girl he was really interested in last year said that she didn't want a boyfriend. And, you know what? Soon after that, she ends up with some other guy, and they end up breaking up anyways. Meanwhile, my friend gets friend-zoned. If she ever comes around and decides she wants to date my friend, I hope my friend just gives her a flat out "no". Another example is, he helps a lot of people by giving them lifts and doing other charitable work. However, when it comes to his birthday, NONE of his girl friends helped in one bit. I find that pathetic. Out of all my friends and so-called friends, only the jerks are in relationships. In saying that, I don't think all girls are like that. I've met some really awful, down-to-earth girls that are just lovely.
Mr White Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Speaking of food, a lot of people would rather eat fast food because it's cheap, easy, and tastes pretty good, but they would live longer if they would be willing to cook their own food that may cost a little more and may not taste as good. haha, good metaphor!
carhill Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I've met some really awful, down-to-earth girls that are just lovely. I smell an edit or a Freudian slip
counterman Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I smell an edit or a Freudian slip LOL! It's neither but I understand why you would think so! I got carried away with my friend's experiences and my feelings of being jaded that I almost discounted some of the great people I have met!
The Paper Knight Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 what does it really mean to be nice? Is it when I open the door for you? Is it when I hold your hand? Is it when I complement you for being pretty? Is it when I buy you flowers? It it when I drop over to your place with strawberries? Is it when I take you on a picnic? Is it when I look after you when you are sick? Is it when I kiss you on the forehead and say 'I love you'? because none of these things keep you around!
counterman Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I am sick of hearing the work NICE! I second that.
Kamille Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Oh yeah! A nice guy thread! It's been what? Probably a couple of days since we've had a nice guys finish last thread? Now, what are we going to learn here that we haven't established as cold hard facts? And, more importantly, where is the OP and why hasn't s.he come back?
Woggle Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Umm, every girl is like that pretty much? so Nice guys don't stand a chance, and if a nice guy is lucky enough to reach the marriage point, that girl is going to eventually get sick of him cause he isn't a challenge anymore. THANKS MTV for corrupting women, and all those magazines and junk. Nice guys don't stand a chance anymore. Thebob Yup. Even if one of these good men do manage to get married they will get cheated on and eventually will got the I love you but I am not in love with you speech. It's hard to keep a straight face when women complain about the lack of good men.
Alexz Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Is it wrong to say certain women are masochists until they finally understand what they want? I mean... look at who they form relationships with... Why would anyone want that kind of treatment?
Thebob Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 don't forget Sex in the City. I totally forgot about that, good one as well! within 10 year don't expect to find any good men anywhere, cause you women would have turned them in to the biggest *******s on the face of the earth. Thebob
betamanlet Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/02/24/AR2010022405727.html Coincidence that the ratio of college educated black women to black men is 3:1 and black women are saying "they're no good guys left" which really means, there's not enough to marry up with.
Author single-n-lonely Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 What do you mean? What works with women?
Author single-n-lonely Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 I hope a girl reads this and actually does it. Nice guys are plentiful, most don't bother to be bold with women because they know that other types are more desired (especially with younger women). After you get labeled boring, a great friend, enough times you tend to become less enthusiastic about the process. Well then how are we supposed to find them? How do the ladies know which ones they are?
Author single-n-lonely Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 Sorry guys, I'm kind of new to this forum, just figuring out the hang of it! I am kinda sad to see the responses here. Do women really walk all over nice guys? "what does it really mean to be nice? Is it when I open the door for you? Is it when I hold your hand? Is it when I complement you for being pretty? Is it when I buy you flowers? It it when I drop over to your place with strawberries? Is it when I take you on a picnic? Is it when I look after you when you are sick? Is it when I kiss you on the forehead and say 'I love you'?" YES!!!! Who says this doesn't work with women? I have yet to find a man who does these things for me and I know i would treasure it if i did. Just because some women are like that doesnt mean all are. Trust me, I would love to find a man who doesnt cheat on me for a change. i don't find boyfriends like that on purpose. i just think they are nice guys until i get to know them better or find out from someone else what they did. there are women out there who appreicate nice guys... but just arent lucky enough to find them!
Thebob Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Sorry guys, I'm kind of new to this forum, just figuring out the hang of it! I am kinda sad to see the responses here. Do women really walk all over nice guys? "what does it really mean to be nice? Is it when I open the door for you? Is it when I hold your hand? Is it when I complement you for being pretty? Is it when I buy you flowers? It it when I drop over to your place with strawberries? Is it when I take you on a picnic? Is it when I look after you when you are sick? Is it when I kiss you on the forehead and say 'I love you'?" YES!!!! Who says this doesn't work with women? I have yet to find a man who does these things for me and I know i would treasure it if i did. Just because some women are like that doesnt mean all are. Trust me, I would love to find a man who doesnt cheat on me for a change. i don't find boyfriends like that on purpose. i just think they are nice guys until i get to know them better or find out from someone else what they did. there are women out there who appreicate nice guys... but just arent lucky enough to find them! Majority of women walk all over men like this, cause they aren't a catch or interesting in any way. Women will want to do some dirty things cause they know they can walk right over the nice guy. A nice guy is predictable and women don't want that at all. A women might enjoy his company for awhile, but after time they'll become spoiled and sick of it and want to find that jackass who treats them ****ty cause they want the chase and the hope that they can mold and reform the jackass. Thebob
Author single-n-lonely Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 what do you mean they aren't a catch? that's the kind of stuff that makes a guy a catch, imho. i'd rather have someone i can chill with who will treat me good then a jerk. thats too much drama for me. dont get me wrong, i believe you that a lot of women are into *******s, but i dont understand it!
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