single-n-lonely Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 OK I don't know if it's just me or what but am i the only one who just isn't meeting nice guys? It seems like every guy I meet is a jerk or is lazy Where do you go to meet good men?
EYECANDY000 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 If there was a specific place I think everyone would be there. You just have to date. Get out and get to know people. I'm sure men probaly feel the same way about women...
AD1980 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Were here,just not good looking enough for women to notice..
carhill Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 OP, I can empathize. The hard part is finding a good man you're attracted to. Probably better to be clear and honest about that. We both know that there are plenty of good men (and women) out there. It's just our people-picker that needs a tune-up. I've met plenty of good women through random encounters. Meeting a good *single* woman is a bit more problematical. Single women, so far, don't appear to be as open and friendly as married women, an aspect of a person I value. So, life goes on.
boogieboy Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 It's just our people-picker that needs a tune-up. Carhill that is perfect. That should be your sig...if not, im stealing it for my sig!! Hey Single-n-lonely, youre only going to meet the same guys when you keep using the same qualifications to choose them. You dont get a different result unless you change that. Its the definition of madness.
threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 In order to respond, perhaps you can define what a "good man" is and whether or not you can bring to the table, what a "good man" can.
Thebob Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Were here,just not good looking enough for women to notice.. lol, awesome line. There are good men everywhere, women just don't realize it and are attracted to the jerks and the lazy guys who don't give a rats ass about them. So if you run in to a guy who treats you crappy don't go near him, find the guy who is sittin by himself relaxed and his a genuine nice guy. Thebob
Alexz Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Were here,just not good looking enough for women to notice.. Or we grow tired and cynical due to rejection and being different. You eventually turn into a two-sided person, cold and indifferent to the general public, but warm to the rare people who truly want to know who you are. *sigh*
threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 women just don't realize itLet's put this into context. Take any product. If no one's buying it, even though it's being touted as a good product, is it really that great a product? Supply and demand. Food for thought, from a marketing perspective.
bayouboi Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Let's put this into context. Take any product. If no one's buying it, even though it's being touted as a good product, is it really that great a product? Supply and demand. Food for thought, from a marketing perspective. Speaking of food, a lot of people would rather eat fast food because it's cheap, easy, and tastes pretty good, but they would live longer if they would be willing to cook their own food that may cost a little more and may not taste as good.
counterman Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 It seems as though there are many girls that I hear of having the same problem. They keep falling for the jerks they're attracted to but, as for the ones that would treat them better, they aren't attracted to. Also, I've seen capable guys try to ask those girls out but keep getting rejected. Meanwhile, those girls keep dating the same kind of guys. I don't know. Maybe the good men should put themselves out there more?
Alexz Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 It seems as though there are many girls that I Maybe the good men should put themselves out there more? Nope, we get rejected and ****ed over way too much.
alphamale Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Where do you go to meet good men? you have to steal them away from their wives
threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Speaking of food, a lot of people would rather eat fast food because it's cheap, easy, and tastes pretty good, but they would live longer if they would be willing to cook their own food that may cost a little more and may not taste as good.As someone who can't stand fast food and won't touch it, bad example to use for me. If "nice guys" can't get women to buy in and yet "good guys" are being snapped up at a premium, what does this mean?
alphamale Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 If "nice guys" can't get women to buy in and yet "good guys" are being snapped up at a premium, what does this mean? it means the good guys are confident, tall, handsome and have well paying jobs
bayouboi Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 As someone who can't stand fast food and won't touch it, bad example to use for me. Non sequitur used to dismiss a valid metaphor? If "nice guys" can't get women to buy in and yet "good guys" are being snapped up at a premium, what does this mean? Not sure what this has to do with the OP considering she uses both terms interchangeably.
Vertex Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 There's more to a man than his internal traits -- like any asset or product, you need to advertise it well. Some people are just bad at advertising. Others misjudge their own value.
Woggle Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 They switch their game up after seeing what really works with most women.
USMCHokie Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Were here,just not good looking enough for women to notice.. Until they get older and are forced to start noticing us for lack of better options... Disclaimer: I'm just having one of those exhausted 'wtf' evenings...
sagetalk Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 lol, awesome line. There are good men everywhere, women just don't realize it and are attracted to the jerks and the lazy guys who don't give a rats ass about them. So if you run in to a guy who treats you crappy don't go near him, find the guy who is sittin by himself relaxed and his a genuine nice guy. Thebob I hope a girl reads this and actually does it. Nice guys are plentiful, most don't bother to be bold with women because they know that other types are more desired (especially with younger women). After you get labeled boring, a great friend, enough times you tend to become less enthusiastic about the process.
Seymore Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 (edited) I know exactly where they are. In the "friend zone" pile where you females throw us. I'm so SICK of this question, and after hearing it enough, I'm getting sick of being the nice guy. We're invisible. We own the ears lent to you when you want to talk about your jacka$$ of a boyfriend. We own the shoulders you cry on when these jerks treat you like crap time and time again. And after we're used up and you're feeling better, we get tossed back into that pile again, for the next time you have a rainy day. And you keep going back to those guys. OPEN. YOUR. EYES. Edited February 25, 2010 by Seymore
tami-chan Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Until they get older and are forced to start noticing us for lack of better options... Disclaimer: I'm just having one of those exhausted 'wtf' evenings... aawww hokie..i will let the above statement go cuz you are having "one of those evening"... where are they? gosh, i hope to my dead ancestors at least one of them is headed my way!!!!!
BobSacamento Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 If you have to ask, then you're probably ugly
USMCHokie Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 If you have to ask, then you're probably ugly Stamped and signed.
seibert253 Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I know exactly where they are. In the "friend zone" pile where you females throw us. I'm so SICK of this question, and after hearing it enough, I'm getting sick of being the nice guy. We're invisible. We own the ears lent to you when you want to talk about your jacka$$ of a boyfriend. We own the shoulders you cry on when these jerks treat you like crap time and time again. And after we're used up and you're feeling better, we get tossed back into that pile again, for the next time you have a rainy day. And you keep going back to those guys. OPEN. YOUR. EYES. Wow Seymore. This was me in my early to mid 20's. Like to have a dime for everytime I got the "you're such a great friend" line. When my W and I were dating, she actually took a couple of "breaks" from our relationship, but always came back. Sometimes they gals do "get it", but alot of times they don't
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