jiji Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 i broke up with my girlfriend. i miss her. i didnt contact her but whenever i see her i feel something very weird at my heart. why should i do? its been quite long since we talk. i was not good to her. i learn my mistakes but i dont know what to do to let her know i changed? any advice?
counterman Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Welcome to LS. If you could provide more details that would certainly help. It is good that you recognised your mistakes and, hence, can learn from them. Feel free to post more so others can offer some advice too!
Ronni_W Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 jiji, It sounds as if you need to find out, once and for all, if she even might be interested in reconciling with you. And the only way to do that, is to ask her. [so] Just invite her out for lunch or a coffee (not anything that can be construed as a date) -- if she says 'no', then it's no...she's not interested at all and you need to move on. If she says 'yes', then you take it from there. If she says 'yes', act cool and calm. Don't go all emotional and needy on her, don't give her a crapload of empty words and promises. Just demonstrate your new ways of being, thinking and doing so that she can see it and experience it for herself. Best of luck.
Author jiji Posted February 27, 2010 Author Posted February 27, 2010 when i keep on asking her if she still love me she will not reply. but one day i kept pester for an answer and she said she dont love me. but i can still feel her presence of care and i feel she still have feeling for me. i cant sleep at night thinking about her. every seconds felt like minutes,evry minutses felt like hours-.-
Ronni_W Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 Hugs, jiji. Unrequited love is a difficult thing to have to accept and deal with. She does not feel the same way about you as you feel about her. She could still care about you...but as a person not as a boyfriend/romantic interest. Maybe she's even okay having you as her friend...but she does NOT love you. You need to listen to what she told you about that, and you need to respect it. It's going to hurt even more if you keep deluding yourself into thinking-believing that you can "feel" that she cares about you MORE than a person/friend. You are misinterpreting the situation and the 'vibes'. She TOLD you the truth about it.
GrayClouds Posted February 27, 2010 Posted February 27, 2010 jiji I really hard to let go. Read the following links they ail help you start. So you want a second chance? The No Contact Guide Good luck and keep posting.
Author jiji Posted February 28, 2010 Author Posted February 28, 2010 me and my ex is in same school and very often see one another. what should i do?
Ronni_W Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 You're just messing with us, right? It doesn't matter if you two live in the same house! You need to accept that she has no romantic interest in you, and you need to learn to take charge of your own emotions so that you can move on. No matter any and all other circumstances, you don't have the power to change the basic fact that she has no romantic interest in you. [so] You need to overcome your interest in her.
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