Soul Bear Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 WTF is up with that. 'Scuse my french... If you want to be with someone and DO love them, then why keep playing the nuclear card??!! Is it a control thing? Is it for power? whats it all about? I think its childish and immiture. If everyone did that whenever they hit a bump, this world would be a sad place indeed. Im not going to put up with that ****. It gets old after a couple times. I'll put up with a lot of things, but not that.
boogieboy Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 They only get away with it when you let them. My girl tells me she tries to get me mad to see if she can...because she can never get one over on me. I got good at calling her out on things when shes tryin to be slick...she cant get away with anything. "Oh youre trying to dump me to get your way? Ok, cya..."
paleblue Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 its just to get some kicks. its pretty sick and those who do it dont care. the sooner you launch this one the better off you will be..
Woggle Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 If you meet a woman like this run for your life.
meerkat stew Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 If they are really doing it for manipulation, and not due to reduced attraction, yeah, run fast, run far, run away.
Silver_star Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 WTF is up with that. 'Scuse my french... If you want to be with someone and DO love them, then why keep playing the nuclear card??!! Is it a control thing? Is it for power? whats it all about? I think its childish and immiture. If everyone did that whenever they hit a bump, this world would be a sad place indeed. Im not going to put up with that ****. It gets old after a couple times. I'll put up with a lot of things, but not that. It is childish and immature. Guys do it to girls too. because it has happened to me before. I think its a power trip, but it will only last as long as you let it. I lost feelings for my ex because he broke up with me only to come back again (and did this a couple times before I really got strong enough to realize I deserve better). It pushed me away, and NOW i can see it for what it was. By the time they realize they have gone too far and pushed you away for good, it will be too late for them. I say goodbye and good riddance to those people. They are not ready for a real relationship.
Art_Critic Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 SB.. It is immature to dump someone knee jerk or hitting a little bump.. I always feel that people need to act and not react. On the flip side of that.. What was the action that created the dump ? Everyone has their own boundaries and maybe to one person the little bump is just that and to another person it is a huge pothole. Care to elaborate on the little bump some ?
CarrieT Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I remember doing it to a BF when I was 17; I went to Mrs. Fields cookies and ordered one of those 12" chocolate chip cookies and them inscribe, "I Love You - Goodbye" on one and left it at his house. I was incredibly immature and grasping for attention almost 30 years ago. We DO grow out of these things.
Author Soul Bear Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 This is the 3rd time in recent months. And it has really pushed me away today. Something clicked inside of me and reminded me that this kinf of treatment is NOT OK. Like im sick of it, and i know i deserve better. I learned a lot last year. What started it was basicly me not happy that i hardly heard from her all w/e. and her offering an open R cos i made a statement about wondering how i will last without sex until i see her again (LDR). I lost it at that statement, but she lost it at me and said that she offered it for ME cos she cares about me and that i should see that side oif it.....I asked if she waned one and she said no that it was not for her. But the previous times i cant even remember what it was that made her do it, it was so stupid. More trivial things about me not being happy with something, or not feeling enoufggh attention or love at times I just cant be treated that way. If you dump someone you dump them and leave it at that. But to play this game is just cruel,manipu;ative and immiture. And all that has happened is the previous 2 times i have basicly allowed her to walk all over me by crawling back...like a fool. well not this time, im really on the brink of saying 'you blown it with me' A real shame as wedo have an amazing chemistry when we see each other. All this **** only happens online.
Author Soul Bear Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 I know what you all say is true, but at 26, ou would think you would grow out if this kind of behaviour. Its not all bad tho, she is amazing, and does treat me wll in other ways. In person we are amazing. On line chatting and things get nasty. but this is a RELLY big part to me, and its making things unbalanced. Not only that, but i am slowly loosing credibility as well as my self resopect. I have to be strong and if she doesnt realise then i need to call it off... ugh...i think its too late already you know. I feel so disrespected
BellaMoon Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Here's my take...did she grow up with both parents? I don't think she's dumping for a "reaction" per se as much as checking her level of control due to her own insecurities. Maybe fear of being dumped first. I'd suggest omitting the online or text messaging. I've seen lots of arguments begin with miscommunication from computer mediated technology. People react differently when there's a living, breathing person on the other end of a line. On the flip side, if yu truly feel past the point of no return maybe you should take a break, reflect, and try a few dates. See how it makes you feel. Good luck!
Yamaha Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 It's definitely a control thing. When it happens you tell the person and if it continues then you need to decide that you just aren't getting what you want/need and end it. They know if you are into them they have control and power over you and they find that attractive. We have to grow a pair and not put up with disrespect.
VeveCakes Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 (edited) must be crazy. Edited February 25, 2010 by VeveCakes
tami-chan Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 This is the 3rd time in recent months. And it has really pushed me away today. Something clicked inside of me and reminded me that this kinf of treatment is NOT OK. Like im sick of it, and i know i deserve better. I learned a lot last year. What started it was basicly me not happy that i hardly heard from her all w/e. and her offering an open R cos i made a statement about wondering how i will last without sex until i see her again (LDR). I lost it at that statement, but she lost it at me and said that she offered it for ME cos she cares about me and that i should see that side oif it.....I asked if she waned one and she said no that it was not for her. But the previous times i cant even remember what it was that made her do it, it was so stupid. More trivial things about me not being happy with something, or not feeling enoufggh attention or love at times I just cant be treated that way. If you dump someone you dump them and leave it at that. But to play this game is just cruel,manipu;ative and immiture. And all that has happened is the previous 2 times i have basicly allowed her to walk all over me by crawling back...like a fool. well not this time, im really on the brink of saying 'you blown it with me' Wait...all THE ABOVE and you are still "on the brink"? WHY? What are you waiting for?
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