mammax3 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 This is something that I'm struggling with in my quasi-relationship (I say quasi due to the undefined nature of our times together) and another poster mentioned the first question as a statement and it got me wondering. I'm interested in your answers to any of the questions. Are titles in a relationship overrated? Why would people want a title? Why wouldn't people want a title? What changes when a title is introduced? What challenges are there if there are no titles? Thanks for reading!
Double Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Yes, a title is very important in a relationship, assuming both parties (or one party) wants a committed relationship. Otherwise, the person who doesn't want to commit completely, but also doesn't want to lose the other person, is free to avoid conflict over potential bad behavior because "you're not my g/f".
D-Lish Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 At my age, I don't focus on titles too much. When I am dating someone, I know what we are or what we aren't. I know when things are progressing toward exclusivity, and I know when someone isn't willing to commit. I guess I just instinctively know when to assume there is a title, without voicing it. When I was in my 20's, it was probably more important to define things, I think it made me feel more secure to get a title as soon as I could. I have a male friend that has been dating the same woman for over 8 years, and he won't admit she is his gf. 8 YEARS... and he just can't go there with the title thing. It's a bit weird. The importance of having a title is only relevant to the people that place emphasis on it I suppose. In my opinion, people that have been dating exclusively for about 3 months, get the title of bf and gf, at least from outsiders.
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