Gerhard Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 How do you and your partner handle nudity? Does it occur only during sex and while either of you are in the shower? Is it balanced? Or is one partner very open about their nudity and the other isn't?
mem11363 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 (edited) Both of us are only naked for showers and sex. Both a little shy. I call it "functional nudity" - got to be nude to get clean and also to have sex. I don't mind her seeing me naked in those situations but just walking around naked - not for me - too shy for that. But I remember - when I was too thin - I hated when she saw me naked. I knew she didn't like how I looked. How do you and your partner handle nudity? Does it occur only during sex and while either of you are in the shower? Is it balanced? Or is one partner very open about their nudity and the other isn't? Edited February 24, 2010 by mem11363
linwood Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 We`d both be nude every minute at home if all these kids weren`t always around.
Enema Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I'm nude a bit, my wife less so. Aside from general nudity during showers / sex she's naked walking around the house finding clothes, or getting ready in the morning before work. I'm naked often when: - Taking the dog out to pee early morning / late night. - Doing weights - It's hot Or often just wearing shorts - gotta keep some mystery
Stung Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 We're pretty casual about nudity on the days when the older kids aren't here, although soon enough we'll have to start being more circumspect around the baby. Generally though we're not shy with each other at all and don't believe it's a bad thing if the kids happen to see the human form, we wouldn't want to teach them that the human body is shameful or scary in and of itself, we just don't want to deliberately freak out their sensibilities with a lot of parental nakedness . We sleep nude when it's warm enough and my husband loves it when he occasionally comes home from work to find me in my birthday suit around the house.
mark982 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 i have no problem with being nude around the house. my wife ,it would take a act of congress
Samantha0905 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I've never had problems being nude when I'm "supposed" to be nude -- sex, showers, changing my clothes. My husband does act a little shy nude and that, in turn, makes me feel a little odd being nude around him. My daughter and I never care if we're nude around each other during clothes changing, etc. We're free spirits. My son has locked the bathroom door (or tried to) since he was about three. I had to lecture on safety with that and PROMISE I would not enter without knocking. I've never been one to just walk around the house nude for funsies, to vacuum, do dishes, etc. My husband does sleep nude, but he keeps the bedroom so cold I sleep prepared to be outdoors in Alaska.
hersmudders Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I'm not a nude person. I can't do it, even when I lived alone. I'm just not comfortable being naked. I don't like to sleep naked, walk around naked, etc. I'm naked for shower and sex, not b/c I don't like the way I look but just b/c I don't like being naked. I feel better with clothes on, more at ease. My boyfriend, otoh, is a naked guy. Loves it. Sleeps naked (actually, as I type this, his bare butt is pressed against me as he snores away!), walks around naked etc. He'd love for me to be naked more often but he's ok with my need for clothes and I'm ok with his weiner flopping in the wind in the house. My sister and her husband are naked people too. They're always walking around the house naked when no one is home. I just don't get it!! I'm so uncomfortable that way.
Jeff1962 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I'm very comfortable being naked. I do however respect others. I'll walk around the house in a pair of workout shorts without a shirt. I have no problem when the bedroom door is closed walking around naked while getting dressed. The neighbors tend to have a problem with nudity when I walk out to get the paper in the nude and bend over. I'm like, WHAT?!
Stung Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I'm ok with his weiner flopping in the wind in the house. :lmao: I love naked men, the flapping peen is so cute. My husband can always make me laugh with his wiggly penis dance.
SarahRose Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I try to be naked as much as possible. I get home from and and off come the clothes. It is more comfortable and natural. Husband is the opposite. He would wear a wet suit and a balaclava if he could
Leia Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 No problem with nudity here. Whenever we spend a few nights at eachother's place, we'd be naked almost all the time. Even on my own, I'm either in my knickers or nothing at all doing house-work. Boyfriend likes it when I iron his clothes naked
make me believe Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I'm not a nude person. I can't do it, even when I lived alone. I'm just not comfortable being naked. I don't like to sleep naked, walk around naked, etc. I'm naked for shower and sex, not b/c I don't like the way I look but just b/c I don't like being naked. I feel better with clothes on, more at ease. Same! I just don't feel the need to be naked unless it's required (showering, changing, sex). Luckily my boyfriend is the same way. I think people generally look better with some clothes on anyway, so when I want to be comfy at home I change into some booty shorts & a tank instead of getting naked & having everything hang out all over the place.
threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 How do you and your partner handle nudity?It just "is". Does it occur only during sex and while either of you are in the shower?No, it happens when it happens. It's not thought out but I will admit to ensuring being fully clothed while cooking. Burns hurt. Is it balanced? Or is one partner very open about their nudity and the other isn't?We're about the same. Neither one of us runs around nude, just for the sake of freedom or any form of exhibitionism.
TaraMaiden Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Ok, so the pattern usually runs that Gerhard asks a question, gets loads of replies, then comes in with his own problem of his wife wanting to do something and trying to manipulate him, or that he wants her to do something, and she won't do it... ok, I'll bite.... So, Gerhard, what's the issue between your 'very-much-younger-than-you' wife and you, then?
mem11363 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 TaraM, I promise not to call her his "child bride" if you won't. She is a living breathing poster child for what a 40 something year old can expect from a twenty something year old - drama drama drama. Ok, so the pattern usually runs that Gerhard asks a question, gets loads of replies, then comes in with his own problem of his wife wanting to do something and trying to manipulate him, or that he wants her to do something, and she won't do it... ok, I'll bite.... So, Gerhard, what's the issue between your 'very-much-younger-than-you' wife and you, then?
threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Since this is a thread about nudity, I do have to throw something in. If you're always running around nude, letting everything hang out, where's the mystery and fun, in unwrapping your present?
Lizzie60 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 How do you and your partner handle nudity? Does it occur only during sex and while either of you are in the shower? Is it balanced? Or is one partner very open about their nudity and the other isn't? I am very comfortable being nude in front of men.. but I don't walk around the house nude... even when I'm alone... I looooove my comfy housecoat.. when I get out of the shower or bath... I would never ever 'live' in a nudist community... ewwwww..
summerautumn Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 The neighbors tend to have a problem with nudity when I walk out to get the paper in the nude and bend over. I'm like, WHAT?! Husband is the opposite. He would wear a wet suit and a balaclava if he could.ROFL PRICELESS!)) Thank you both for the laughs!
Author Gerhard Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 Ok, so the pattern usually runs that Gerhard asks a question, gets loads of replies, then comes in with his own problem of his wife wanting to do something and trying to manipulate him, or that he wants her to do something, and she won't do it... ok, I'll bite.... So, Gerhard, what's the issue between your 'very-much-younger-than-you' wife and you, then? Tara - See my thread on fiscal responsibility. There's an update there. She hasn't been whining about the first wife much lately. And I'm in counseling with the hope that she'll join me. Counselor and I are working on strategies to make that happen. -G
Author Gerhard Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 TaraM, I promise not to call her his "child bride" if you won't. She is a living breathing poster child for what a 40 something year old can expect from a twenty something year old - drama drama drama.I think it would be within reason to have a thread on older men/younger women relationships.
mem11363 Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 My wife has aged really well - and she is a better woman than I deserve. Still I have moments where I envy you Gerhard - youth is such a magical quality. I just don't have your emotional stamina though - so I those moments of envy pass fairly quickly. :) I think it would be within reason to have a thread on older men/younger women relationships.
Blindsidedagainalive Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Sober, I am somewhat reserved. Intoxicated, I have dropped my trousers in MANY places not normally accepted. Including on dates before a kiss was ever exchanged. THANK GOD I DON'T DRINK ANYMORE.
maxcreigs Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 We`d both be nude every minute at home if all these kids weren`t always around. I agree as well! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 Neither fiance nor I have a huge problem with nudity. I used to be a little more self conscious until I lost a lot of weight. I'm more confident now. Neither of us prance around the apartment nude constantly (too cold for that!), usually it's before/after sex, showers, changing clothes. I'd say we are about even.
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