soup Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I broke up with my ex a couple of weeks ago, have posted about it. The relationship was pretty unhealthy and I was getting physically ill as well as mentally very stressed. I tried to be as gentle as possible, talked to her face to face about it. There were lots of threats, a half-hearted overdose, fights, accusations and begging. Now she phones a few times a day. Finally I agreed to meet her at the weekend to explain it all again but she just seemed not to understand me and kept saying "i love you, let's try again, one more chance, it'll be different this time." After spending a few days with her after her "overdose", speaking once a day for several days, helping her get counselling and meeting her to talk, I've finally stopped answering her calls. Tonight she emailed telling me I need to take medication, I am doing exactly what I did with my last girlfriend (not true, she knows nothing about my last girlfriend, it was a very different situation). And of course that we should try again. So I replied with a very gentle but firm message saying that we've broken up and I won't change my mind, I'm sorry, I've tried to be gentle, I've told her face to face, I really don't want to email this kind of thing. I didn't bother trying to refute her made-up stories about my previous ex. After that she phoned to accuse me of having met someone else (I haven't) and after I hung up, she called straight back and left a message telling me I'll never get anyone else and I am a useless person etc. She's just emailed to say more stuff about my previous ex and how I ought to be on medication, and how pathetic to dump her with an email, even though I broke up with her face-to-face over 2 weeks ago and have confirmed it to her face-to-face since then. I know she's really hurting but it's hard to accept the viciousness and madness, the hateful fantasised accusations mixed in with spot-on criticisms of my weakest points (that I get depressed, that I tend to be a loner). I don't know why I'm posting, just because I'm so upset I'm shaking and I need to vent but I don't want to wake any one up at 1am...... Tomorrow she will collect her belongings from my place, I will make sure not to let her in and after that I can get on with proper NC I suppose. I hope she stops calling so I don't have to change my numbers again. I feel exhausted by this.
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