mellowyellow186 Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 My boyfriend, or I suppose ex boyfriend, have been going out for a year and four months. I love him very much and I know that he loves me and cares about me very much. Over the course of our relationship there has been highs and lows. We do tend to disagree on the way we do certain things but overall we are happy. He has always been there for me and I have always been there for him. For the past month I have noticed that he had been acting a little distant.. He didn’t want to see me as much, wasn’t being sweet like he used to me. I noticed a change because he has always been really good to me. I brought it up a few times but he didn’t say much. I brought it up about a week ago again and told him that sometimes I don’t feel appreciated enough. He replied by saying I was right that I deserve someone better, someone that will be there for me and not hurt me and broke up with me. We talked about it for hours, talking about why he wants to leave me and such. He just kept saying that he wasn’t right for me, that we aren’t right for one another and that he doesn’t want a gf anymore, he wants to be alone. Of course I was puzzled because at the same time he kept crying, and telling me that he still loves me a lot, and he still cares about me and he still wants to be my friend. I was way confused and especially because things weren’t bad when he decided to cut it off, the whole week before he kept hugging me and being normal, he said that everything he was doing wasn’t fake.. that he means it all. I was very confused.. So I called him the next day and asked him to meet me, he kept telling me he needs to be alone and work on himself, fix himself, and being fully happy again. I kept asking him what he meant by working on himself, what did he want to work on.. After hours of trying to get him to tell me he did... about four years ago he got a dui, his family was very disappointed in him and he told me he got really depressed after. This was before I knew him. He said that he was able to make himself happy again but that now he feels the same, he feels like he’s stuck in the same place he was then, going nowhere and he says he still hasn’t felt the way he did before he got the dui to this day. He also told me that he didn’t break up with me because of me, or because he didn’t love me. But that he needs to work on himself, ALONE. He made the alone part clear so I tried to stop talking to him but it’s hard because we go to school together. And when I see him, he seems ok, he doesn’t do couple boyfriend things but he does things like look at me and move my hair out of my face, he always hugs and holds me when I look upset, and even though he says he wants to be alone... he still texts me. Not as much as he did, but he will text me in the middle of the day saying hi, how is your day, or what are you doing. I don’t know what to do anymore, he is so depressed I can see it and he knows he is but he doesn’t think its bad enough to see a doctor. Im the only one that knows he is depressed, he won’t talk about it with anyone, not his parents even. I keep saying I love him and that im here for him, but I cant just be a friend, I need him as my bf, I love him so much and it kills me to see him in pain, and even more to see him push himself away from me. I want to help but I don’t know how. I just keep praying that he will get better and come back to me.. I know he needs love and support right now, and even if he says he doesn’t need me he still does, otherwise he wouldn’t talk to me right? I’m so very confused, and am starting to feel depressed myself. He is my life, he makes me so happy, and I love him more than anyone else.
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