Lucy_b Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 I am 24 she is 21 we have been together 8 months and have broken up we have been broken up for a month now I lost count of how many times we got back together and broke off. I do not want to change my number I should not have to. She put it to me that she is not sure if she wants a relationship she is a bit of a comitment phobe. Not that I asked her to spend the rest of her life with me till she grew old although I did love her that much once I thought I could. She broke off the relationship to go out and sew her wild oats which is not a problem for me someone else hopefully will want to settle down with me and my ex hopefully also finds who she is and what she wants out of life. The thing is when I was with her I was fully commited I did everything for her and she took advantage of my good nature. Now I want nothing to do for her she rings me constantly if she cant get through to me by email or turns up on my door even worse rings my home phone to which my mother picks up and pokes her nose in. I do love her loads I would lie if I said I did not I want to see her happy but I do not trust her to much damage has been done. she has never cheated on me I must add. But she keeps calling and when she knows I want nothing to do with her she ask me to take her back and date her again and be with her. How do I make her see that I want nothing to do with her? I feel like a compleat pr*ck when I ignore her as I do not have it in me to be mean I hate to see her unhappy and it is draggin me down making me feel down and out.
orangelondon Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 I've just been with someone who sounds exactly like this. She is totally selfish and self absorbed not thinking about you at all. I think my ex had a lot of issues and problems with her moods too but i took the brunt of it. She just kept coming and going but in the end i had to realise i was enabling her to do this by having her back, i've now closed the door firmly as i know she will never learn while i'm there as an endless support. She sounds like a mess and needs to sort herself out and only she can do this, maybe losing you will make her realise, maybe not. But I'd def go no contact as it will be much easier for you, how can you have a relationship with someone who is constantly leaving you?
Author Lucy_b Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 (edited) yeah you are compleatly right thank you Edited February 23, 2010 by Lucy_b
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