Vertex Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 So with the help of an external IP tracker, I can check who visits this blog that I've been writing in for years and years. Ever since moving to the city (where my ex happens to live), she's been checking it multiple times per day. Does this imply interest? Or do you think perhaps boredom? Would you ever check an ex's blog if you had zero interest in them? Need opinions... XD
lordWilhelm Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 I think the better question is, are YOU interested in her?
skydiveaddict Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 So with the help of an external IP tracker, I can check who visits this blog that I've been writing in for years and years. Ever since moving to the city (where my ex happens to live), she's been checking it multiple times per day. Does this imply interest? Or do you think perhaps boredom? Would you ever check an ex's blog if you had zero interest in them? Need opinions... XD Probably curiosity, or boredom perhaps. But not interest IMO, at least not romantically
Author Vertex Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 I am not sure we could ever kickstart things again -- we broke up before due to college transitions and bad timing and inexperience. I'm not sure if things would work out in the present day, but I just find it strange that she's checking my stuff constantly.
skydiveaddict Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 I am not sure we could ever kickstart things again -- we broke up before due to college transitions and bad timing and inexperience. I'm not sure if things would work out in the present day, but I just find it strange that she's checking my stuff constantly. Who knows? Impossible to say
Lindarose84 Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 eh, we all do it. it's the equivalent of the facebook stalk. it's done out of complete boredom sometimes while others, it's to see if your ex is leading the miserable life you hope he/she is leading. there's a chance it could also still mean interest on her part, but really it's hard to say.
lordWilhelm Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 If you are not then there's no sense in worrying about it. If you think something's still there, give her a call and gauge the situation for yourself.
BG1985 Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 If you are not then there's no sense in worrying about it. If you think something's still there, give her a call and gauge the situation for yourself. Yeah because the best ice breaker is, "Yeah so I was tracking your IP number and noticed you've been frequenting my blog. Wanna hang out some time?"
Ruby Slippers Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Now and then I look at my ex's FB page. I have no desire or intention to have any contact with him in the future. Why do I look? Mostly because he hurt me and I want some reason to feel smug and wonder all over again "what did I ever see in him"? But that's just me.
Author Vertex Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 The difference here is that she technically was the one who broke up with me. It's not like I "hurt" her or anything. How often do you check his page? I mean, doesn't 1-2 times a day imply something? Or is she just the type who blogstalks? I honestly have no idea.
DustySaltus Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Seems like there can definetly be some feeling left there. I've reconnected with women 8 and 10 years later with mixed results. If you think the reasons that broke you up would still be a problem now, they need to be addressed. If you keep this in mind you have nothing to lose, give her a call.
littlebittle Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 i check my ex's flickr. i was the one who broke up with him, and even though i don't want to date him again, he was still a part of my life and i am interested in what he's up to. our relationship didn't end on great terms, but over the years things have smoothed out between us and we are friendly now. aside from that, he's a great photographer. oh, and i also comment on his pictures from time to time, so he does know that i look at them.
Art_Critic Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Probably curiosity, or boredom perhaps. But not interest IMO, at least not romantically I agree.. Interest would be if she read your blog and then picked up the phone to call you.
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 How long has it been since you broke up? How long were you together? You said she started looking when you moved - does she know you moved? I don't think I would bother looking at someone's blog if they had no meaning to me. When I've looked at an exes online profile it's because some feelings were still there.
DustySaltus Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 I agree.. Interest would be if she read your blog and then picked up the phone to call you. I don't know, maybe she's a bit shy. I know from experience that it's not easy to pick up that phone after a few years....
Knittress Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Hey, I still read the blog of my ex's ex. I realize this is weird, but I started reading her before my ex and I split - she started making our lives hell (with the kid and lawyers, etc etc) and I wanted to see what kind of two-faced BS she was REALLY spinning. She is SUCH a moron and always spewing amusing venom towards everything, and it makes me feel better about myself. I realize this makes me a tad smug/arrogant and I should probably get a life, but oh well.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 She's probably doing the anonymous internet stalk. I think most people do it now. I would say it probably doesn't mean much of anything. I know I've got a blog or two I pop in on occasionally to check out what an ex is up to now. Granted I check like once a month and not several times a day. It's almost like she's developed an obsession with your blog. How often do you update?
Author Vertex Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 I update daily, more or less. I had reached out to her back like 5 months ago and said hi -- we caught up a tiny bit on FB and left it at that (we're not FB friends though). We started dating my senior year in high school and it lasted until the end of my freshman year of college. It was a very interesting and unique relationship for a variety of reasons, but we did not end on good terms, necessarily. Although things were cordial when we last caught up, I still wonder why she bothers reading my blog so much. She knows I live in the same state now because I blogged about it all, yes.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 The difference here is that she technically was the one who broke up with me. It's not like I "hurt" her or anything. How often do you check his page? I mean, doesn't 1-2 times a day imply something? Or is she just the type who blogstalks? I honestly have no idea. I broke up with my ex, too, and though he did not set out to do anything malicious to me, his behavior was still very hurtful to me, and I felt pretty heartbroken. If he updated his blog daily and I was curious about his life, I might look every day. It doesn't take long to include a blog stop in your breaktime surfing, you know? I used to know this guy who I later discovered was trying to date me while he was engaged (scum). I knew that his woman had a blog, and I still check in on it a few times a week, and some weeks almost daily. I don't know what it is about her blog that hooks me -- she's not even a very good writer. It's just kind of interesting to see all the drama and daily grind stuff she writes about. (And weird that I know what a liar her husband is, and she might never. She constantly writes about what an amazing husband he is, and she has no idea that he told me that he "could fall in love with me" if I'd let him, while they were engaged!) You and your ex have a history, so that clearly ups the interest factor. But it doesn't mean she has any interest in getting back together. Sure, she may have considered it -- that's normal. She might still be checking in on you if she's blissfully married with a family. Human curiosity, I think. I have a public blog, too, though I don't update it that often. I am almost certain that most of my exes read it from time to time. But I don't think it means anything. If I were updating daily, I wouldn't be surprised if some of them checked it daily.
Author Vertex Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 My blog lately generally has happy things, so if she's after my demise, she's definitely not getting it.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 My blog lately generally has happy things, so if she's after my demise, she's definitely not getting it. Happiness is always the best revenge.
hats Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I feel that this situation has much unfulfilled pranking potential!
VeveCakes Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Uggggggh my ex always checks my blog, and twitter and it drives me absolutely mental. He will randomly comment on it or e-mail about something I wrote and I just do not get WHY he can't move on. She is trying to creep on your life, hoping for the worst but ready to be all over you if you suddenly win the lottery or become president. cyber-stalker.
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